My sister has just invited my parents to a dinner with her husband and 3 adult children, plus her husbands parents for Mothers Day. I am single and live 4 hours drive away, but I have made it clear I would make the trip for a familly activity - however she continues to plan things like this without consulting, or inviting me. Am I being too sensitive here, or is my sister out of line?
2007-05-09 01:34:35 · 9 answers · asked by pete the pirate 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your sister and ask her why the invite was not extended to you. It is possible that she feels bad about asking you to travel a distance. No matter the reason, figure it out and try to resolve it.
I really don't think you are being too sensitive. You are upset at being left out of family events. Like I said above, figure out the reasoning behind it all before jumping to conclusions. Also, make plans with your family that way they know you are willing to drive out because you initiated it rather than waiting for an invite. For example, you could call your parents and sister and ask if they would like to have dinner with you on such and such date because you would like to make a trip to see them.
2007-05-09 02:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing that she isn't inviting you because of the distance. She probably doesn't want you to feel like you have to come. I know you said you would, but sometimes people make their own interpretations & don't take others at face value. Or she may be thinking that, since you are her brother, you don't need an invitation -- that you have an implied invitation.
Sit down with your sister & talk to her. Tell her that you are sincere in your willingness to drive to her house when the family gets together & that you would appreciate an invitation to these gatherings.
2007-05-09 08:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off I don't know how anyone could really know unless they know your situation. Like for instance the kind of relationship you have with your sister. My brother is a first class prick and is always trying to do things to get my parents attention, because he is an insecure little brat who never grew up and can't stand to not be the center of attention. He will always go out of his way to try to one up everyone on anything and is constantly trying to throw monkey wrenches in everything or trying to cause trouble. Last Christmas he did something that I thought was really sh_tty to my sister. My sister had just bought a new house and she wanted to have everyone over for a first christmas and had planned this since October. Well everything is going along fine until about 2 weeks before when my brother comes out of the blue and informs everyone that he is taking his wife and kid to Hawaii for Christmas. He knew how much it meant to my sister and also knew that my mom wouldn't want to have Christmas without him, so we ended up having Christmas about a week early and I could tell it really put my sister down in the dumps and I wanted to punch that little creeps lights out right in front of his overbearing wife. Me and my sister can't stand the little creep, and it wasn't for the general harmony and for my parents we wouldn't have anything to do with the little b_stard.
So you tell me? You know your family. Are you being too sensitive or is there really something there that is going on?
2007-05-09 09:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Bobby the Brain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask my sister what was up. She may not realize you meant these kinds of things. She may have thought you meant big family gatherings, like reunions or weddings or those kinds of things. Not dinner with her in laws, kids and your parents. If you want to be a part of it, just call her up and say I heard you were having a dinner for mothers day. Set another plate because I'm on my way. It sounds like it's just lack of communication.
2007-05-09 08:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have family events, try planning and inviting everyone to one of your own. Don't get caught up in petty things like who is right or wrong, but try to remedy the situation by bringing everyone together. It can be difficult when you live a distance from everyone but you will likely find it to be very rewarding.
2007-05-09 08:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have told her you would like to be a part of family things and that you are willing to make the drive, and that you don't upset things when you are around then yes she is very much so out of line.
2007-05-09 09:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by karasmith78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not think you want to drive it. I know I wouldn't want to call and, maybe, make you feel obligated. A lot of people wouldn't say "No, I can't make it."
Ask her. Tell her you really wouldn't mind making the drive.
I don't think she's actually out of line, I think she thinks she's saving your feelings.
2007-05-09 08:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi is she your only sibling ?if you have no other brothers and sisters then she could have invited you they are your parents to and it is mothers day you might have wanted to see your mum ,if you have other siblings and she didnt invite them ,if you have alot of them maybe there isnt room ,if its just you and your sis , ring her up and invite yourself ,maybe she thinks you will be busy xx
2007-05-09 09:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your being too sensitive here...
2007-05-09 08:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋