Should i allow it My daughter's dad is very sweet to OUR Five year old, he have never been aggressive with her

Question

he doesn't believe in spanking,i don't either. BUT recently she have deveoped a FRESH mouth, we tried taliking with her, and taking away previleges.It does not work ! He says the best way might be to pop her mouth, what do u think ? What else can work ?

Answer 1

I did soap in the mouth one time and that's all it took. It killed me to do that, but like you, nothing else was working. I don't really like it when someone pops there kid in the mouth. Just something about it that drives me insane.

Answer 2

Mouth, no (although back in the day, my parents would do that to me).

Pull her to the side, tell her WHY she's getting spanked. Let her know that you are her parents (and you AND the father *must* do this *consistently*), you love her and desire her best. But as her parents, it is your job (as assigned by God) to discipline her so that she doesn't grow up to become potty-mouthed, rude and obnoxious (and words usually always precede actions). The path she's travelling down with the words she's been using is unacceptable and there are consequences to it - painful consequences.

Get a wooden spoon or a small paddle (save your hands for holding/loving/caressing her).

WEAR HER BEHIND OUT.

Plucking her in the mouth (fingers) may be a small option for those quick moments when 1-2 words may slip.

Pain is a very good deterrent to behavior, but unless you undergird it with love (hence the talk), all you'll be doing is creating behavior modification.

Additional note: DO NOT discipline your child while you are angry. DO NOT discipline your child while you are angry. Send them away, sit, calm down, and when you are at a nice even level where you can talk to them in a calm voice, THEN go wear that behind out.

Rod of discipline to the seat of knowledge. It works.

Answer 3

.popping her in the mouth really isn't a good idea, there can be resulting injury to the lips because of teeth.
I would pop her on the butt. Its safer.spanking can be a good deterrent if verbal warning and time outs haven't worked.I'm not recommending spanking as a consequence for every misbehavior but as a last resort after other means have failed.
If its any comfort to you,5 year olds seem to go through this ,testing their Independence or maybe because they are going to kindergarten and pick it up from the other kids .you know the smart mouth thing they do to each other as a form of social banter back and forth. then come home and try it out on Mom and Dad.
Ive gone through this several times and it gets better .just stick to your guns, reminding her about being respect full and bad consequences for bad behavior I.E.time out /the wall/no tv/pop on the butt.reinforcement of your expectations. lots of patience and love.It will be okay.
Peace><>

Answer 4

Why on earth would you want to pop your 5 year old`s mouth ? ! You some kind of sadist or what ? What sort of person would hit a child in the mouth ? If she has a fresh mouth - askyourself this - where did she get it from...? So you are seriously thinking of taking hold of your 5 year old, smacking her round the mouth - regardless of any injuries you might cause - and then telling her that`s what you get for having a fresh mouth ? ! You serious ? And you`re telling us she has a " sweet dad who has never been aggressive....."---? ? ? ?
I think you need to seriously take another look at the "sweet" dad you have there. I hope you both get locked up for child cruelty. If i knew who you were i would report you to the police - and see what they think about popping a 5 year old`s mouth !
You ought to be ashamed of yourself ! I never heard such talk from a mother ! From a thug in the street yes - but a mother....? My god what is the world coming to......???!!!
ALL THE PEOPLE SUPPORTING YOU IN THIS "POPPING" ARE FROM US. I KNOW THAT AS I`M IN UK AND HAD TO LOOK AT THEIR ANSWERS TO SEE WHAT POPPING WAS. THAT`S NOT HOW WE RAISE OUR KIDS IN THE UK. WE DON`T USE VIOLENCE. THAT`S WHY AMERICA IS SUCH A VIOLENT PLACE TO LIVE MAYBE....? ALL THE VIOLENT PARENTS.....? VIOLENCE BREEDS VIOLENCE - DON`T YOU KNOW THAT ? DON`T YOU PEOPLE EVER LEARN ANYTHING....? ALL YOUR HIGH SCHOOL SHOOTINGS ETC - WE DON`T HAVE THAT IN THE UK. WE FROWN UPON YOUR VIOLENT WAY OF LIFE AND WHEN YOUR KIDS TURN OUT TO BE VIOLENT, WE SAY WELL WHAT DID YOU EXPECT.... ?

Answer 5

Fresh mouth? I brush twice a day for a fresh mouth!

But a potty mouth is another story! Hitting never solved anything.

First of all, its all about monkey see, monkey do so eliminate those words from your vocabulary! Time out is supposed to work well for children up to 7 or so, 1 minute for every year of age an by all means, be consistent.

Answer 6

My wife and I have a child due on November 2nd. So my advice is from the heart and not practiced as of yet.

Try rewarding your daughter for the times she is really good. This will encourage her to be less "Fresh Mouthed" and maybe teach her that it is wrong to use foul language or talking back.

Rewards can be as simple as preparing her favorite food or even having a friend spend the night.

Like I stated above. We do not have children yet but this is my thoughts on this question you have.

Todd

Answer 7

I believe in spankings and I think a little Pop on the mouth would help.. But step one is mom and dad need to get need of their fresh mouth too. But sometimes kids just do things they know are wrong just for the attention they get from it whether its good or bad attention. Try rewarding good behavior along with punishing bad. If she is just doing it for attention then ignore her and she will get bored with her new found words..

Answer 8

i was raised " do as i say and not as i do" but as a mom i now know that does not always work. do you or any one else around her have a bad mouth? if so it could be that she is trying to be like that person. but that too is not always why. maybe she is trying to get attention, you know what they say any attention [ good or bad] is still attention. try giving her more attention for good things that might be over looked because there not new or aspect ed. i know it can be hard but try real hard to not reapond to the bad languge. not even a look. kids are smart they know how to push our buttons. try to reason with her letting her know that it wrong to do such things and even though grown up people do it, it is still wrong. follow it up with when she is grown up then she can talk like she wants. maybe if you are brave try harder to use good lanuge not bad. but too know bad habits die hard. as a last resort use some sort of punishment [ like something on the tunge] just rember to stick to it becuse she will do anything and everthing to get you to feel bad and give in.
from one mom to another.........lisa
ps i am a single mom of 4 girls ages 12 -7-5-3. so been ther done that. just remaber each child is different, what works for one might not for another.
good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

I agree, there is nothing wrong with a good butt spanking when needed. No popping of the mouth especially with a five year old.

Answer 10

What does "pop her mouth" mean? If he means hitting her, then you tell him "NO WAY!" right away. You don't hit a kid that young - ever.

I would handle it by giving her an abrupt time-out or make her stand in a corner right away when she said something offensive. The first time would be for 5 minutes, the next for 10. It doesn't harm her physically, but do it right away, so that she knows that what she said offends you or is wrong. If you wait, she won't understand that the punishment was for something that happened hours earlier.

Answer 11

Well let me be the first to say that I do not support child abuse I do however support child discipline. I have a three year old son that from time to time gets out of line with his dad but watches what he says to me but when he get out of line with dad we have to let him know that he is the child and dad is the adult. I believe that if you sit and firmly let her no that disrespect will not be tolerated then it really won't be necessary to pop the mouth.