Do I have the right to be angry toward my Mom and sisters, on there behavior after my dads death ?"Been 3yrs"

Question

I'm the oldest. Then my brother, followed by my two sisters. Mom & Dad had 40 yrs together.True it was very traumatic losing her partner. Now , that very same day on ... my brother and I were literately excluded from them.... Not allowed in my moms house at all. Not able to be involved in plannig his funeral. Calling the Police to escort me out of my house in which my dad owned. No where to go. Outraged whenI asked to see the trust. Finding out my sisters are to be exctr. after her. Me knowing my dads business,along w/ his estate with his brothers, are not being delt with accordingly. Totally ignoring the business w/ my dads greedy brothers. Insisting not to talk to my brother and I, now going on 3 yrs. Never got to mourn together as a family. Mom saying to me..."It's me, {Sis}and{Sis} Its a shame .We were so close. My dad always kept his business affairs from her. I kinda feel , I intimidated her toward my fathers estate. Its like my bro & I have no more family. They're so hateful .

Answer 1

Sounds like you have a lot of stress on your hands. I am guessing you had a fight in the home and that is why the police were called... understandable that you got angry when the will was being addressed. Money brings out the worst in people and this also happened to my mother as well. She did not hold a grudge but definetly left a bad taste in her mouth. She does not interact with them as she once did. You need a good lawyer which im sure you have. But you need to decide what is more important to you. Fighting over the money or trying to get your family back together. If you can get together with them and not freak out with them then go for it. But if you know you or they are going to start something then do not bother, you need to learn to deal with this from a different angle. If you want to meet then lay out the rules. Sounds juvenile but it must be done. They of couse have to be interested as well. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Of course you have the right to be angry. When my father died, my mother said some "odd" things (nothing cruel) but after the stress was over she was back to her usual sweet self. So even if she had said something fairly mean there would have been time for resolution. However if this has been going on for three years it is very cruel of your mother and the stress from your Dad's death does not explain or excuse it.

I am so sorry they treated you this way, especially at the time of your father's death.