I started texing and talking to a guy who's picture and profile was online on a 'friends' website. I thought he was cute and we swapped numbers and I had a really good feeling about him and we had a lot of fun talking to eachother. Then we met up on monday, and am ashamed to say that I didnt like his looks. He didnt look anything like his pictures but he was still the same sweet and funny guy i'd started to get to know. I've since told him because i wanted to be honest, that he's not quite my type but I would like to carry on being friends. Being the nice guy he is, he told me he's happy with that. But I've been feeling pretty crap after that and I dont know wheter I did the right thing. I dont think am after someone whos incredibly gorgeous, but someone who i at least find attractive to being in a relationship with. I just feel really awful about this cos i thought he could be the one for me. Should I try again with him?? or leave be...??
2007-05-08 22:55:51 · 20 answers · asked by Abs-Ashl3y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's ok. You have your standard and that's what you want.
When you are not attracted to someone, it's extremely hard to force yourself to love that person. You don't want to carry on having relationship with this guy, and to find out that eventually he and you will break up because you just meet a better guy than he is.
If you force yourself, you tend to have negative feeling that you "have to do it” not that you are "willing to do it". Negative feeling is the biggest barrier to everything in life.
2007-05-08 23:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by James 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most handsome man need not always be good and funny and may be the chemistry would never work well.
I think you should give him a chance....,just for his looks, you dumped him?
don't you think there's more than that to look for. He is a nice guy and you enjoy his company.
Beauty is temporary thing, the kind of person matters more as that is something more important.
Sorry to say this but just give a thought, how would it feel if some guy would dump you on similar reasons.
Give this guy a chance!!!
2007-05-09 06:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by rhea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds incredible that you want to give up on a guy just because of his looks!How beautiful are u?Can u pass for miss world?Even so, wouldn't you rather consider his personality, his intentions, level of sincerity, means of steady income, his general disposition,if he is real and how he feels about you.
But one thing is sure, do not go into a relationship with him out of pity.I used to think like you but now I know better. I am in love and have a marriage proposal from a guy who wouldn't pass for Mr World, but he is a first class material,has a promising carrier and always on the look out for me. He loves and spoils me silly and a wonder in bed! What more do I need in a man? Learn from me and give him a chance.He may be the prince charming u've been waiting for.
2007-05-09 06:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by da babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See this happens when you meet the first time because hetherto it was only your imagination and when you saw him in person you felt that he is not upto your expectation. Just keep on meeting him two or more times and if this awkward feeling still persists then you can leave him and seek another person but mostly it would not be the case and you would be liking him and then your life would be happier. Hence the best thing would be meeting him some more times before you take your final decision.
2007-05-09 06:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you're shallow. But it's not really just that. There has to be some sort of attraction to the person you settle in with. You will end up missarable if you settle just because they are COOL and you dig them. You can have cool friends, but it doesn't mean you need to hook up with them. The one thing to remember though is that the grass isn't always greener on the other side, and you could find that the longer you are friends you'll become more attrated to him, and when you realize what you've missed he could be gone.
2007-05-09 06:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even speak romantically with someone if you haven't met them first. It can cause alot of hurt feelings if they aren't what you thought. (Speaking from experience) I met someone much like that. I wasn't attracted to him at first, but kept spending time with him and actually started to really like him. I've always believed an ugly person with a good heart becomes better looking all the time, while a good looking person with a cruel heart becomes uglier. But if it never happens for you, don't lead him on. Be his friend, get to know him on that level and you never know what will happen.
2007-05-09 06:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by lastonealive@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its important to at least be attracted to the person you are seeing but at least get butterflies when you see him. But saying that when I met my ex although I asked him out on out first date I thought he was a bit of a dweeb lol! But now its like he's the sexiest thing alive to me. It may not always be there in the beginning but once you get to know a person and their personality that can make them become more attractive. So to cut a long story short I'd say give him a chance you never know??
2007-05-09 06:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't anything wrong. Good that you let him know what you felt. In truth, you was speaking to each other, as some friends, not promising anything to each other.
You take your time, keep the friendship with him, because you like the way he is as a person. Later, you will decide what should be your steps and you will make your mind in accordance to it.
There is not only looks that plays a role in one's life. The main this is a person, his attitude to life, the way he behave himself, his views and ideas.
I wish you all the best!
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2007-05-09 06:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by (✿◡‿◡✿) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not saying you should try again, but the guy I'm with now, I wasn't totally attracted to him when I started dating him. He wasns't awful looking, but I gave it a shot. We've been dating for about 3 years now... and I think he's totally hot. It's kinda weird. But I guess the person you fall in love with is the best looking person you know.
2007-05-09 06:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by Dy-no-mite! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with what your heart tells you and not your mind.
the reason you feel so gutted is that you had a really good texted relationship where you can say what you like and get a reaction.
But in reality its not the same,you can still be mates.
But how will he feel when you say oh Ive changed my mind now?
I'm sure he may be delighted but a couple of weeks down the line you will still have your doubts and that's no way to start a relationship is it.
2007-05-09 06:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋