I’m just wondering if there are any guys left who don’t look at every female as a sex object but instead at women individually and what they like about her. I know not every guy is a pervert obviously but are there still guys that are waiting to find one girl they love and want that image of her only? I'm personally waiting till I'm married to have sex and I only want the image of my husband in my mind but I'm curious to know if any guys have this same mentality also. It’s just a question that’s on my mind and I’m curious about what everyone else thinks and yes I’m serious so be nice if you don’t mind :)
2007-05-08 21:38:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It starts out young we as men are programed by the people who raise us .If that boy has people in his life who feel that way ,it will become a way of thought to them as they become men. Then as they get older life starts to have an impact on the way they think. You have to find that someone who has a firm grip on life and still holds his upbringing as value to him and you will find that special someone good luck and don't let life change your expectations of what you value
2007-05-08 21:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by teddybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we are out there - the problem is that we don't tend to advertise...
It's true that "every guy isn't a pervert" - but there are enough of them out there to ruin it for the rest of us. Who HASN'T had at least one encounter with a really creepy guy that has made you think "ALL men are pigs" (or something along these lines)...
The nice ones are the ones who are there when things AREN'T going well - true friends first, and lovers (physical or otherwise) second. You usually meet this rare breed through another friend - as we don't see ourselves as "pick-up artists".
The innocence that we carry can be seen by everyone in the world - and quite often is taken advantage of by those who either don't understand, or have lost their own way.
We are the shoulders to cry on, the one willing to hold your hair back after you've had a few too many, and who will actually listen to your problems (without trying to find a way to turn it around to their advantage).
Good luck in your search for a pure, innocent soul - we are out there, and chances are you already know at least one of us. And if not, fate has a way of working in your favour if you let it do it's own thing.
2007-05-08 22:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like this are everywhere. I would wager that MOST guys are looking for the "one", but they are more willing than girls are to have meaningless encounters with other girls while they are searching. All is not lost. There are potential "soul mates" out there in droves. As far as him NEVER fantasizing or looking at other women...well, forget it. It's only natural for men (and women) to look. After 15 years together, it is the LOVE that keeps you faithful, not the sex (no matter how good it is). Both men and women fantasize about other people, and it does no harm. The harm is done when one of them acts on the fantasy. If the love is there, most will not risk their relationships over a little emotionally void sex. Men have the BEST sex with the women they love.
2007-05-08 21:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Josie,
I must say, I admire you for sticking to your guns. It's a breath of fresh air, especially nowadays.
And yes, there are guys out there who feel the same as you do, but unfortunately, they are few and getting fewer.
A girl is to be respected, and looked upon as someone to love and cherish. You see, I personally hate the word "sex". Know why? Here's why. Love gives. Sex takes. There is a big difference. So many people miss out on the special thing love has to offer, even if that expression of love is physical.
What more can I answer? What can I expand upon what you have written? You summed it up perfectly, and you are going down the right road. And I pray that someday that special person comes to you, and that you both live a healthy, wonderful, and exciting life together. That is my prayer for you today.
Best wishes!
2007-05-08 21:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are but there up here in Canada like myself married my true love almost 8yrs ago first one I ever slept with as in sex.. Only the creeps and cheaters live in the States and the ones that have had 50 GF's before they settle down.
You just have to look and be patient the right one will come along.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
P.S. It is nice to know there are some women in this world that still have some moral fiber!
2007-05-08 21:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do there are heaps. Some men are just shy and waiting for you to make the move. Shy guys are normally the most trust worthy
Even open guys dont see us as sex objects. Yes sex is important because its something they know they can provide in teh relationship but its NOT the most important thing.
2007-05-08 21:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Concerned,
Don't think that what any guy has in his mind. No one can do anything with you without your own acceptance and permission. Understand.
Be a mature one. Females are respectable not just an object of sex. They are sisters, mothers and colleagues. One who respect his mother (no one can come in the world with out mother) or sister does not think like that.
It is what you are thinking in your mind about yourself. So, if you have some one with you trust him and start a good life with confidence and sharing of your self with your partner.
Have a good day,
Best regards,
Badl
2007-05-08 21:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of couse there is , the world is too huge and full of different types of guys. I think being good and innocent in the world of today soceity is kinda hard cos lots of us are being force to be what we dont want to be. Being a kind soul is kinda hard but at least we try in one way or another. There is always downs and ups in every part of life. It is just inevitable but what really matters is what we still are , "humans" We learn from each mistakes we took.
2007-05-08 21:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by bran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im very happy for you that you can wait till you get married to have sex. and not too many women can do that, you have alot going for you and the man that will win your heart is going to realize that. that a women like you can be understanding and loving and just be herself. that is what im looking for, a women who can be herself and have fun and laugh and have good times without sex. i would like to find a women like you but its hard to find one, now women dont trust men and they think men just want sex but its not true some men want a relationship with a true hearted women and to explore a love where both can experience what it is about love that captures the heart and mind and to experience it. well i hope this helps and god bless you in your search and if you like to talk you can reach me at rgsiguana@yahoo.com
2007-05-09 03:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by rgsiguana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, there!
I know your question is to guys, but I want to say that I have the best boyfriend ever...
Some people want a boyfriend, but the truth is that the saying is that 'good things(and guys) comes to those that wait'. Just out of personal experience.
Someone is meant to be with you and he will come your way and you will know when you meet him that he is the one!
2007-05-08 21:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋