Why is it that when I was single the guys were extremely far and few between? Now that I have a boyfriend (whom I care about very deeply I might add), dudes seem to be so much more interested in me and will pursue with all there might! Its strange how things work hey, just wanted to know if you guyz and gals feel me on this one?
2007-05-08 21:27:41 · 10 answers · asked by Expecting ... ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to always work that way. When we're in a good, happy relationship, maybe we put off a different vibe that attracts others. More confident etc. Cuz I damn sure had more girls checking me out when I was with my ex, now they don't seem as interested.
2007-05-08 21:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dethklok 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one works both ways - women seem to flock to the engaged (or married) man just as easily. It all comes down to two things:
First, it's forbidden fruit - knowing that you can't have something (or someone in this case) makes you want it all the more.
And second, they see you (or the person who is engaged/married/etc.) as somebody who is looking to actually BE in a relationship - there are a lot of single people out there who are proud to be single, and it can get frustrating if that's all you ever seem to find...
2007-05-09 04:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its simple when men see some one single they know that the single person is availible for commitments that they dont want. A girl with a boyfriend is way less likely to fall for some guy so men are more likely to approach a girl with a boyfriend to get some. And as most guys are always looking to sleep with some one you will always be approached more when you have a boyfriend
2007-05-09 04:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Incredible!! I was going to post the same thing! Always had problems getting chicks. Now that I have one beautiful women now want me like I'm Brad Pitt or something. Yet I'm still the same person. Its called Murphy's Law or something like that.
And in case u were wondering, if u ever hooked up with any of them u'll go back to having none and men not being interested
2007-05-09 04:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when ur in a relationship, u, as a person change. Like, you would be happier and for that will probably look more approachable, more confident and just radiant I guess. So being that way will attract other people to you....
2007-05-09 04:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i don't know. i always feel like there is a chance the guys around me like me and when ive got a bf that doesnt really change which is sorta awkward and im not even that popular or pretty. but just forget the other guys and stik with ur man. lol
2007-05-09 04:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe guys just want what someone else has, they can't make up their own minds about what they should have.
None of them want what nobody else wants.
Just a thought. Could be some psychology worth investigating there.
2007-05-09 07:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are single for awhile, you tend to act desperate and needy. This scares people away. This gives you low self-esteem, which also causes you to do things which scare people off. It can become a vicious cycle.
When you are in a relationship, you act self-confident and indifferent. Self-confidence is sexy. Desperation is not sexy.
2007-05-10 11:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, we want what we cant have. aahahhaha
and also maybe its because you look so happy and pretty, more so than when you were single. and because they see you in a relationship with a guy, other guys instantly think 'since she's with that guy then she's good enough to be with me' like you 'pass' the test to be gf material lol
thats just my thoughts tho.
2007-05-10 10:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Wilson J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i feel you on this one. i have had the same issues with that one. i think it is that when your by your self/alone (not in a relationship) you dont glow like you do when you are in one. so there for you are not as noticeable to others. but when you glow you attract every thing around you because your full of life and every one wants that
2007-05-09 04:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by apisfl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋