But how may I help them when 1/2 of them are gay and I'm homophobic.
2007-05-08 21:22:38 · 6 answers · asked by woptie 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Try to keep in mind that you're not looking for a date nor are those seeking your help looking to be picked up. Look at them rather as people and not as sexual objects.
Their gender preference in regards to sexual partners should not enter into the equation unless they bring it up and unless the problem they are having involves their feelings about their own homo or bisexuality.
If you truly want to help those who have been through what you've been through, continue on in therapy, and work out those things that stop you from doing as you would like, such as the homophobia hindering your desire to help others. It may not be such a hard or long under-taking and the benefit of not being controlled by such fears may be liberating to you also.
2007-05-09 00:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Secrets of the Night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't truly help others fully when there are still issues you need help with. Try working on that issue and then you might be able to give yourself to helping others. I think you are making an unsubstantiated generalization when you say half of them are gay. Actually, sexually abused people tend to become promiscuous and drug or alcohol abusers but I don't think gay is necessarily a generalized issue. Even so, if you want to help people you really can't be selective. They are all people. You need to understand why you are homophobic and what you can do to get over it. Good Luck
2007-05-09 04:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by deadsqirrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can search out online support groups through google and just be selective of whom you choose to give advice or help to. Perhaps volunteer at your local crisis center or hotline. All can be found in the yellow pages.
2007-05-09 04:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mischele, RN♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying that half of all abused kids are gay just because they've been sexually abused? is that a fact? or an unsubstantiated claim?
2007-05-09 04:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine_mel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont think about their sexuality just think about them as people and IF you find you are judgemental then you should`nt help them as this will cloud your views
2007-05-09 04:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by curlynurse69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a victim or a survivor?
2007-05-09 18:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by ruthiesmoothie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋