He's my ex-fiance.. And I can't seem to let it go. If I don't call him I won't talk to him, but when I do call him (about every few weeks) he says he's glad to hear from me. he came here this weekend for my g-mothers funeral and we slept together (2x) and he was being overly affectionate... But then he says he likes another girl that he's been seeing.....But THEN he makes sure to point out that she's not his girlfriend..........????? I thought he still loved me but should I just let go and call it quits???\
Btw...when he was here this weekend he "accidentally" left his razor here. And he calls and leaves a voicemail about a cheap a** razor. I offered to give it to his friend to pass on to him because I'm better off not seeing him too much. He said to keep it at my house because it will be safer there..lol wtf??? Why in the hell would you call about a stupid razor.
We split on really bad terms but every time I talk to him I get the feeling he's hesitant to get off the phone...Help!
2007-05-08 20:57:56 · 7 answers · asked by Nikki S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard to let go because I feel like I'm getting payback. When we were together I use to break up with him for the tiniest reason and then he would beg me to be with him. He was always the one begging. I just think that now the tables have turned, he's enjoying being the one with the upperhand and that he wants to be with me but is either hesitant or confused because of how I behaved. Am I fooling myself or is this possible?
2007-05-08 21:21:30 · update #1
It sounds like he knows that you can't let it go - and this is giving him fuel to play his game with.
You say that nothing happens unless YOU make the first phone call - to me this looks like you are giving him permission to get back into your life (even if it's just to sleep with you).
He is taking advantage of you - and you keep letting him do so. Stop making that first call - he is your EX for a reason.
If he in genuine in wanting to pursue a real friendship, then he will take the initiative once in a while - but all his actions (including the "Razor" game) seem to show that he is desperate, and will take what he can get.
You don't need this childishness - shut the door on him, and find a way to move on before he REALLY starts dangling you on his string...
2007-05-08 21:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) The "I'm so beautiful so I'm better than everyone else, and can treat everyone else like crap" game. Having physical beauty doesn't give a woman a license to be arrogant, stuck-up and conceited. Having self cofidence is one thing, but acting like this is quite another. It shows a real lack of class and respect for other people. 2) Telling white lies and exxagerations to make themselves look more desireable. E.g.: faking that you're going out on dates, or exxagerating about all these swarms of men that suppossedly want you, etc. Not only is this dishonest, but a woman who does this really sends a message that something is wrong with her because if she were desirable she wouldn't have to play this game. 3) Dropping hints but never saying what you want. Sure, it might take more courage to come right out and say what you want, but it'll almost certainly save a lot of headaches in the long run. That way the guy and the girl don't have to play charades and 20 questions all the time. 4) Nagging. Too much nagging is a really great way to make your man resent spending time with you. Over time, he'll eventually view you as a behavior policewoman rather than your lover. 5) The "He has to make the first move" game. We live in the 21st century, and feminists have been complaining for decades about breaking down gender barriers. Women aren't property arrangements where the best swordfighter gets to take her home anymore. What's wrong with calling him first, or talking to him first instead of spending weeks wondering if he likes you, asking other people how to get him to notice you, and riding on this psychological merry-go-round? 6) The "I have to make him jealous to get him to like me" game. Going around and flirting with other men makes you look slutty, not wholesome. Again, a woman who does something like that sends the message that she's compensating for other shortcomings. Hey, don't get mad. You asked :)
2016-05-18 22:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is definitely playing games with you. If you want to continue like you are now - keep seeing him, calling him, and taking his calls. If not, cut your ties, move on, and find a new man who will take care of you. In the mean time, do things that you like to do and that you are interested in. Spend time on yourself.
2007-05-08 21:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him! he's playing with you.
he doesnt know what he wants, and that's a sure way for you to get hurt.
just move on.. and throw his cheap-a** razor in the trash! so next time he calls tell him you threw it away, so he wont have a reason to call anymore.
you yourself said youre "better off not seeing him" so stick to it. he broke off the engagement, he's not worthy of you.
:)
2007-05-08 21:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling him, change your phone number if necc and move on with your life.. How much more of your life are you willing to waste on him?? Maybe you like it that he still has "feelings" for you..
2007-05-08 21:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by rey1101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games, he likes feeling he can control you. Try to move on, see a counsellor if you think it would help.
2007-05-08 21:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Run as fast as you can!.Run far, far far away.
2007-05-08 21:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by aulona37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋