well I really shouldn't be asking this cause I know why but how do people deal with there grandchild leaving there home after being with you for so long , 3 years,my son came to live with us that long ago after divorcing his wife for abuse to their daughter.I have been like a mother/granny to her all this time
don't really know the wife that he has married,they got married so fast (and no she isn't pregnant).How does one deal with this? I know their isn't a whole lot to do but keep an eye on the situation,but you think my son would look at her and me and see its just horrible.I know that she needs to be with her dad.
I don't know has anyone else been through this and if so how did you deal.Please anyone,THANKS
2007-05-08 20:43:01 · 7 answers · asked by becca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Heavy drinking
2007-05-08 20:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Yes, I can imagine how you must feel. You could try telling your son how much you will miss the little boy. And I would. He should be grateful for all the help you've given him. He's a man - he's not going to think of you in your pain. But I'm sure once he realises, he will be more sensitive.
In the meantime, why don't you do something to work ith children? When my daughter went to school I found I had a whole lot of love to give and went to help at the nursery.
2007-05-09 03:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear of your predicament. unfortunately, the only thing you can do (without jeopardizing your relationship with your son) is to support him and his marriage at this time. you could try talking to him. sit him down when hes not stressed or having a bad day, and ask him to have a heart-to-heart with you. you could tell him about your concerns with this woman's mothering techniques, and ask him if he intends to help her change (you can try to help her too, but do it nicely). since you don't know her very well, you can try getting to know her. go out to lunch together, catch a movie, go on long walks. you should let your so know how hard it is to have to "let her go". i'm sure that there will be times when you can have your grand baby for the weekend, or maybe even a whole week at a time, once you make your son aware of how hard this is for you, if he loves you, he will understand. but i have been on the other end, as someone that just got married to a man, and his parents found it hard to accept me for a long time. but the more time you spend with her, the more you will learn about her, and hopefully like. but, above all else, try hard to support and accept your sons marriage, he needs you to be there for him, on his journey with his new family. i'm sure that if shes really not the woman for him, things will come full circle someday, and he will end the marriage for his daughter's sake. good luck with everything, and i hope i have been some help.
2007-05-09 04:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by waterlily750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not been through this type of situation, and I am sorry for your loss. I would try to continue to see your granddaughter as much as possible. If you are able to see her on a regular basis, it may turn out to be a better situation. It will be more special to her when she gets to come over. Make sure the new wife treats her well, and make sure your granddaughter knows that her dad will always be there for her and will not chose his new wife over her!
2007-05-09 03:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard when you are not able to spend as much time as you like with somone that you love so dearly. Just remember that you son is the parent. He is the one to make the decisions. Step back and enjpy your place as a grandmother, or you may find yourself set aside. Keep in mind that he is looking out for both his and his child's happiness. You are only the grandmother. I am sure that he apprciated your help when it was needed, but it is time for he and his child to move on.
2007-05-09 03:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO, I DO UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN, NOT MUCH YOU CAN do. You CAN GO TO COURT, Grandparents HAVE RIGHTS ALSO, but it could spoil your relationship with your son. Ask him, if you can see her on the regular basis, that is a possibility. Try to do it peacefully, use common sense,no matter what you feel, and how you deal with that, her parents are living, and she belong with them, unless they are a junkies. Good luck to you.
2007-05-09 04:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by Irina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alchohol is not the best answer but its 1 of the answers
2007-05-09 03:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by The Samster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋