ok few months ago i went to visit my ex in another state i drove over 200 miles for a party going on there .. and he practially ditched me by the end of the night .. i was left stranded in the middle of no where .. and never sad anything to him about tht .. he didnt call me for a mnth after than all of a sudden hes acting nice no .. but it still bugs me why he would ditch me like that .. wen hes the one who wanted me to visit him .. now even though its late .. should i let him know how i feel .. ive tried acting nice for too long and its not going anywhere .. how do i start to tell him how i rlly feel ANGRILY? out of nowehre??
2007-05-08 18:11:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy sounds like a real ***! Actually reminds me of an ex of mine as well. He obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings. He has no regard for you. (i mean c'mon, he put your life in danger leaving you stranded like that) Perhaps he felt a little guilty afterward/or was just avoiding you by not calling because he didn't want to get bitched at. Now he wants to act all nice to you?! Don't have it girl. You have every right to be mad, so what if it happened awhile ago, it still happened, and it was a messed up thing for him to do. Tell him how you really feel. Don't sacrafice your happiness, and don't hold your tongue. He'll like and respect you more afteward anyhow. You're right, you are being too nice. Give him a piece of your mind, and just bring it up, you don't have to do it any special way, just tell him. I guess he's an ex for a reason....pulling crap like that. Good Luck.
2007-05-08 18:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your anger is YOURS, you're responsible for finding a constructive way to deal with it. It's not his problem to deal with it for you.
If you're angry, it's because you expected something that you didn't get. He's not in charge of your expectations, you are.
If you want him to know you're angry, there are better ways to do it than "blowing up at him". Temper tantrums are for children, adults learn to handle their feelings and express themselves constructively. It's important not to carry old anger around with you, as the other posts have said, but fighting with someone won't resolve the problem OR your anger, it'll just make more problems and anger.
Any class on "Communication Skills" will teach you do this, or read "The Dance Of Anger" by Harriet Lerner.
Good luck to you both.
2007-05-09 01:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, after this many months, you can't BLOW up on him. Because this whole time, he thought it was no big deal. But you can bring it up to him in a mature way. Communication is key in any kind of relationship, friendship or otherwise. So let him know, but be mature and don't let your emotions get the best of you. Think with your brain when you are having this talk.
2007-05-09 01:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW thats mest up. I'm sorry to hear that. You should casually bring up the party, than ask him why he ditched you. And tell him how he made you feel and stuff. Dont keep on being nice to him girl he needs to know how you truly feel.
Good Luck
2007-05-09 01:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darl, obviously he is your 'EX' for a reason. Maybe you have some glimmer of hope for the two of you, but I can assure you he feels the exact opposite. Sounds like he only wants you when it suits him. Don't waste another minute on the dead weight. Move on and leave the trash where it belongs. :)
2007-05-09 01:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sounds like you may still have some feelings for him and getting mad will not do anything but drive him away. dont get me wrong you should let him know how you feel, it may all be a misunderstanding and he may not even know that he acted like he did. and something that will probably help is to sleep on it you may feel different about him in the morning
2007-05-09 01:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by jbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-05-09 01:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Depressed Champion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i would have blown up a while b4 2 be perfectly honest...... i would have slapped him a couple good ones and posssibly kicked where it will really hurt....... b/c that was a really - wats the politiaclly correct term- GRADE A JERK behavior i mean you were stranded in an enterly different state
2007-05-09 01:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is good reason he's your ex then huh? Move on, find a real man that wants to spend time with you. I would like the ex know that he hurt you for that and then move on. You deserve better.
2007-05-09 01:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by alckelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, just blow up on him. maybe then will u get some answers as to why he didn't call for a month and ignored u at the party.
2007-05-09 01:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by PrinceJeremie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋