I am really interested in this sub contractor that does work for the company I work for. He is really sweet and nice. He has a 13 year old son has 3 homes and his own company. He always seems stressed out and we have been talking on the phone for the past 4 months and it wasnt until recently that we actually went somewhere together even if it was a work related situation I enjoyed spending time with him. Everyone asked if he was my husband and it made me smile...which was a smile I hadnt seen in a long time. Is it a bad idea to approach him further? He always is in bad relashionships and I think him and I would be great together.
2007-05-08 17:40:14 · 33 answers · asked by ImperialCountyQueen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl go for it you are grown and in control but i hope youre going for him and not the other goodies you mentioned. but really if you love and adore then go for it. its your relationship not anyone elses so you choose if you are comfortable with the decision you make you talk with him and ask yourself. give hime love you said hes been in bad relationships so give hime and everlasting one that he will not regret cause you are young and might change your mind your never know so really think about if takin the step further
good luck
2007-05-08 17:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 32 years old I would not go out with someone that young unless I didn't love them ad just wanted some great sex.
Reasons why your 18 by 21 you will look back on yourself at 18 and wonder at 25 same and 30 about every 5 to 7 years you enter a new stage in life. by marrying some one at the stage in life. you would be asking them to skip to your level can't go back. Many try and marriages are ruined.(mid life crisis syndrome)You would be robbing them of the experience of growth.there would come a time when no matter how good you were our treated the person they would feel cheated out of those experiences resentment would grow in them until they either leave our make your life as miserable as the can to get back at you. Also you are co-workers our worse hes you boss. There could legal and worse repercussions.Often girls confuse respect for authority figure something more. there are so many strings attached to this one if it crossed the line. He could lose everything and reputation. Go away to collage our some other job first for a year. at least. Then when you get back If its mean to be It can happen and the neg. aspects will not be there.He wouldn't lose everything.you could get together with blessing from most people instead of starting off as dark gossip. If you truly loved him you would do this.If its the rest of your life your talking about 1 year to lay the foundation is not that much.
2007-05-09 05:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it as an interest for a long time until you know him a whole lot better. You need to know what happened between him and his previous wife/the mother's son - it'll show some of his "other" traits you don't know yet.
You'll never be able to parent a 13 year old at your age - the kid will see you as a kid too. This will cause strife between you and the 37 year old at some point down the line.
You will be enticed by the idea of being taken care of and having access to an easy life. Don't let that be your reason for getting with him! It'll fall apart.
Keep it cool, and from your description, nothing has really happened yet. Let him make real advances before falling in love. =)
2007-05-08 17:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men in their early to late 20's are idiots. Women should aim to date older men. I met my wife when I was 27 and I think it was an age where I was barely old enough to pull my head of of my *** and have a responsible relationship. We have been married for 10 years now and have 3 children. My wife is 30 and I'm 37. It seems like an ideal age gap between you guys. One thing to keep in mind though. When you are 50 years old your boyfriend is going to be an old man and might be dead by then leaving you 30 years to live by yourself. There are pluses and minuses.
2016-05-18 22:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be temporarily happy. As you're with him a while and you get a bit older, you'll begin to see why he's always been in bad relationships.
A couple came in my place of business that could have been you two in maybe 5 years. She was 20 or so years younger than him. He had been good-looking at one time, but that was definitely on the decline.
He was a smooth, big talker - a charismatic type of guy. They had about a 3-year-old kid. The wife put up a pretty good front, but I could tell she thought he was an idiot and that she was stuck. (She was right - poor thing.)
If you are unwise enough to marry this guy, it won't be long until the word "husband" does not make you smile.
2007-05-08 17:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Same Song Different Verse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god yes!!! 18 bloody years is waaaaayyy too much. if ur looking for just a hookup n hes old but stil super hot, then i say its ok. but a relationship is waaaayyy too much.
the fact that he has a 13yr old son is just creepy - the kids only 6 years younger than you. i dont mean to get ur hopes down - i really dont but from what you have said this guy seems just have alot on his hands - a business, a kid, homes, bad relationships.......u mite just b this temporary outlet - just a way to get his mind off the problems he is facing in the other areas of his life. do u think he is serious about u?
another thing you shud remember is that this guy has already lived thru his youth, his twenties and he has gotten to where he is now in his own time. if u enter a relationship with someone this mature then you have to mature alot faster as well. a normal 19 yr old will be out nightclubbing, meeting people, meeting cute young guys, living what some people call "the best time of their lives" - where will u be? can u be in a relationship with a person 18yrs older than you and still act your age and do the things normal 19 yr old do??
i say...DONT DO IT
2007-05-08 17:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the age gap is much of an issue compared to what else you have mentioned about him. He gets stressed out, he dumps his problems on you on the phone without ever asking you out, he has a history of bad relationships, and you have questions about approaching him which means he must not be approaching you very much. I think you are probably a sweet person and he can see that and knows that he can get away with this behavior. I say forget this and guard your heart until someone more upstanding and respectful of you comes along.
2007-05-08 18:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lyf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that his son is only 5 years younger than you. You are too young to be tied down right now anyway, much less with a 37 years old man that either is married or has been married already. Enjoy your life, and take your time before looking for a husband.
2007-05-08 17:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ,to me, age is just a number.Don't u agree?Love is subjective.It has always been that way.Marilyn Manson is 38 n Evan Rachel Wood is 19,but they're happy together,aren't they?Don't think too much about what others might think.After all,its your life,not theirs.right?Besides...in the game of L.O.V.E,there are no rules...
2007-05-08 17:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by ilani_huntress9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. People need to remember that. I'll admit that 18 years is a little large, but it isn't that big of a deal.
If you both really love each other, then go for it!
I hope it all goes well for you two, and you live a long, happy life together.
2007-05-08 17:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Heck no, he is old enough to be your father!
When you were 13 only 6 years ago how would have felt if your father was dating a 19 year old?
The age difference AND working together AND teenage child is a big NO.
2007-05-08 17:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by Misch 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋