Why is God so unfair? He plays favorites.?

Question

This guy that I like is getting married to this woman. She's rich and she doesn't have to work to earn her own money. She travels to a lot of countries for vacation only. The guy is also rich and doesnt' need to work to earn money.

The girl is 27 and she's getting married already.

I'm 26 years and I have been praying all my life for a husband but until he hasn't come. The company I'm working for is about to close and I'm underpaid and it's so hard to find another job. I'm not yet financially stable and it seems like my life is going nowhere. I have tried REALLY HARD to improve my life but there are always obstacles to prevent me reaching what I want to reach.

So, my career and love life is unsuccessful.

I'm thinking. I've never had bf and I'm a virgin but I'm not ugly and fat. Some people tell me I'm pretty (although I know i'm not pretty) but I've never had bf. I'm thinking to myself, "does my future husband deserve my virginity or should i give it to someone else?

So, why are some people more blessed than others? Why does God give more blessings to some than to others why does he let bad things happen to good people.

DON'T TELL ME TO SOCIALIZE BECAUSE I'M VERY ACTIVE IN THAT DEPARTMENT AND I HAVE LOTS OF GUY FRIENDS.

AND THEREFORE NO ONE CAN SAY THAT I AM NOT DOING ANYTHING.

that's what everyone tells me when i complain of having no one, that i probably dont' socialize. Well, I DO. AND THEY'RE PROBABLY SAYING THAT COZ THEY JUST CAN'T BELIEVE MY BAD LUCK.

I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY SOME PEOLE WHO ANSWERED HERE TELL ME TO SOCIALIZE. WHAT MAKES THEM THINK I DON'T DO THAT?

OH AND YEAH, i gave Alex a low rating because he assumes I do. And the suggestions he tells me to do, I AM ALREADY THOSE THINGS. JUST AN FYI FOR YOU, ALEX.

I don't think i need to continue my education.

I have a bachelor's degree and credentials are good.

I just happen to live in a THIRD WORLD COUNTRY.

Answer 1

things happen for a reason, you always have to remember that. if that girl is a bad woman, then God will punish her one day. it may not be now, it may not be in her lifetime, He might even punish her children, but somehow, karma will catch up to her (or anyone who seems to be getting away with things.) you have to realize that God may have a different plan for you, and maybe your life is headed in a different direction.
I definitely think you should save yourself for the one. dont just get caught up in the self pity and then go do something you will definitely regret. I think that you sound like a good person, a person with values, and that's all that matters.
I in fact was wondering the same question about a week ago, when i heard on the news about two Turkish men (whose country means that they are muslim) who turned Christian, secretly. They secretly sold Bibles, and practiced Christianity. A gang of other Turkish men found out and beat those two poor souls to death. And I asked myself, they were defending God, they were being good christians, they died for their religion, how could God just let them die? and i realized that God didnt punish them. Arent they in a better place now then where they were? Now they would be hiding and being scared of getting caught. Now they are safely in heaven with God nearby. The point is, that everything happens for a reason, and God doesn't pick favorites. He loves us all equally and His love is never ending. So we must never doubt His love or His choices, because maybe one day you will be glad you didnt get married at this age or lose your virginity at this time.
Don't worry--God is watching out for us, and dont worry. God knows what he's doing.
Best of luck, and God bless. =]

Answer 2

I think the cry was real, but she was "crying" because she is an opportunist and want everyone to remember she is supposed to be the inevitable winner. I dont have a favorite, there are 2 candidates in both parties that I'd be fine wih.... But the media is certainly not for Hillary. It was very clear they wanted us to think Obama was the next Robert Kennedy (which might be a fair comparrison). The media has helped build the fantasy of Obama, and has really given hillary a tough time (deservedly so, as all candidates should be). I'm guessing you are being a little inauthentic, in that you probably never liked her to begin with. I sometimes like her sometimes hate her. I'll take anyone in the Dems or GOP running over the tradgedy of George Bush

Answer 3

Wow, God says not to covet they neighbor and you seem to really want what others have. Many people would envy you and what you have. You are blessed because you have food to eat, water to drink, and you are intelligent enough to know that even though the people you talk about have everything handed to them, How do they learn to appreciate life. A car is cool when you have earned it and and house in an American dream, what do they really have to look forward to if they can have anything they want. It is like walking into a life where nothing is new. As for the marriage that is also something earned and takes continual work to keep. You say they don't like to work and have a life of ease, wait to see how long they are happy with each other or, how long it take one to cheat the other. You are blessed and real love is worth waiting for.
Sincerely
Tracylyn S

Answer 4

You'll never find happiness by comparing yourself to others. There will always be someone with a better "something" than you have. Work on improving your self esteem. Get active in you areas that interest you by joining clubs and volunteer organizations. In that way you'll get to mingle with single guys with the same interests. Ask a close friend if there's something you're doing that's keeping men from asking you out. Consider revamping your wardrobe. Get active in meeting new people, not just men.

If all else fails, get tickets to a Comicon / Sci-Fi convention and smile coyly at some good looking Chewbaca.

As far as the upcoming loss of a job? Look at it as an opportunity. Make finding the next stepping stone in your career your biggest priority for now.

As to the virginity...that's for you to decide. When you do start dating, don't expect too many twenty-somethings to still be virgins or to really care if you are one or not. Any guy that wants to marry a twenty-something virgin would be a guy to worry about.

Answer 5

This girl you're speaking of may not have it all like you think. She may seem like she's has everything but who knows if it's really what it seems like. She's getting married but who's to say it will be a happy marriage and neither one will cheat on each other or divorce. Many times I feel the same way you do. Why do all these people around me seem so happy when I'm not and even though I feel I deserve it? Well my answer to that is that happiness for some people takes a little longer to get to. But all your suffering isn't for nothing. Someday, everything's going to fall into place for you and you're going to be happy and have everything you always wanted. And when this happens people are going to be envying your life instead of you envying theres. Just work hard at being happy with who you are and just keep trying to improve your life. Also, have trust in God that he'll lead the way and do what's best for you even if it takes a long time.

Answer 6

You know what you are blessed. God blesses us sometimes with small things and then we don't even realize. He has our lives planned out and only gives us what we can handle. I was told by doctors I could never have a child. 4 years ago I was very blessed by God to find out I was having a baby boy. It just wasn't my time yet. It took me 4 1/2 years but I was blessed. No, he was not adopted or anything. He was brought into this world just like any other! (through mother and father) GOOD LUCK! I will pray for you!

Answer 7

Hon, God doesn't give us any more than what we can handle.

And instead of praying to Him for a husband, why don't you actively go out and socialize? You'll never get a boyfriend with the whole "People say I'm pretty but I know I'm not" attitude. Guys can see right through you. I can't speak for every guy, but low self-confidence is a HUGE turn off.

Now I'm not trying to be rude, but the most logical solution to your problems is to stop wallowing in your own pity. Go out. Do things with other people. Really put yourself out there. If you can develop your own person into someone who is sociable, approachable, and fun to be around, then not only will guys notice, but employers will notice too.

This won't be easy, trust me. But you have to stick with it. Try making a schedule or goal list. Like, for example, "Today I will talk to one cute stranger" or "Today I will put in one job application." Raise the bar every day/week.

Remember that story about the little train engine? The one who thought he could? That's some good stuff. And I'll leave you with a quote:

"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right."

Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

Good things are granted at times when we least expect them. He doesnt choose favorites. You are just looking at the negitive aspects of your life and the positive of hers. What will happen if something happens to there money source that will make them get jobs, do you think their relationship could handle that, cuz let me tell you, once your used to the cushy life, its life altering to have it change in an instant. Just keep plugging away, and forget this whole husband hunt, and focus on keeping you happy, and you never know, the guy behind you at the coffee shop you think is too good for you, may just turn out to be the one. But dont give to much thought into it, or you will never be satisified.

Answer 9

from what i just read it seems to me that you are suffering from low self-esteem. I have to tell you that people do pick up on low-self esteem and they are in a sense turned off because a person who is not confident in one's own self is repelling. it just happens that way. you need to work on your self-confidence and you will find that you feel so much better.

as for the man getting married to another woman instead of you, things like that happen all the time. it happened to me. you fancy the guy but he does not fancy you in any way. it hurts to see them with someone else because you want to be the one with them but you have to be the strong one and get on with life without this guy. if you are so stuck on this man how will you find the man that is really right for you?
you are 26 that is still pretty young, you have plenty of time to get married you don't have to rush.
as for your job, go back to school and continue your education, education will help you to secure a stable career. try something that is in high demand like nursing or pursue whatever your heart is at.
when the time is right that man that will be your husband will come along and you will know it. he will be the right man for you and you will be the right woman for him. he will make you very happy and bring out the best in you and you will bring out the best in him. he'll be your best friend and you'll help each other to become better people

Answer 10

Cause God is crul and wants the good people to suffer. I'm in the same boat 27 Virgin.. I want a wife and kids someday. I wanted to wait for my one but it looks like she will never come. I too think it's unfair . You should wait for a guy to come along and love you and not just give it up to some random guy cause you are sick of the lonelyness.

Anywoo if you want a new friend feel free to contact me and we can talk about stuff and how life is not fair for the both of us. I hope to here from you soon.