Any drug addicts out there that can help me on this one??

Question

I've asked this similiar question recently and need to make my self more clear. My husband is getting help for a cocaine addiction. But when he's used in the past it would go all night. He says he was in his office snorting lines all night. He wouldn't come home til 6am. I could have easily checked on him (office is very close to home) but never chose to. I either I didn't want to know or didn't give a .. My question is... is it possible that an addict could seclude themselves for hours doing this without contact to the real world? Yeah he was on line doing who knows what. And yes I'll most likely leave..real soon. But this is something I just need to know. He claims he's never cheated. The only reason I've believed this in the past is because he looks horrible after a binge i wonder who the hell would want to be with that. I'll give more info if it helps in answering my question. Thanks for any help-Lauren

Thank you all so very much for your responses. The Yahoo Answer site is new to me. I'm not kidding when I say I felt like to cry with all this support. I never thought this could give me any type of hope. Thanks again -Lauren

Answer 1

My sister is a cocaine addict, I have been through hell and back with her, I have taken her and her baby in several times, I have helped her with money, and still nothing comes from her mouth but lies, yes and she to will disappear for hours and days sometimes and binge, and for two or three days after it violent mood swings, crying jags etc. So yes, I know what you are going through. Its a tough love situation now with her because the final straw was she stole form me, and my children. Its hell going through this with someone you love and my advice to you is go to some meetings, there is alot of help out there for you, even if he doesn't want to help himself. I totally withdrew form her life now and I moved about 60 miles away. I love her dearly but I refuse to help her anymore.And I refuse to enable her to self destruct, I miss my nephew terribly and I do keep a close eye on him and I am preparing myself for a phone call from the police or hospital. Good luck with your Husband and if you need to talk please e-mail anytime.

Answer 2

im not a drug addict but with my job i work with them.

drug addicts are sick people. they will do what ever they need to do to get the 'high' they are looking for.. and so, it is very possible that an addict could seclude themselves for a few hours- or even a few days. People that are feeling guilt or embarrasment about their actions tend to want to avoid the things/people/situations that trigger these feelings.

people with a drug dependancy need help but more importantly the support of the people they love.

But your husband isn't the ony important person in this story- you are too, as well as any kids you may have. Your safety (and your children's safety if you have any) is important and no matter what he trys, if you feel scared or threatened get out.

People with a drug dependancey rarely (if ever) choose to become drug addicts. and change is possible- but they have to want to. The end of any marriage is a sad thing but it may just be the wake up call that will shake him up.

Answer 3

Lauren, I have been actively involved in the rehab of addicts, so although your question was specifically directed at drug addicts, I thought I would tell you my opinion. I have been told by many patients that they do stay up for hours doing lines, sometimes completely secluded from the outside world. It is quite possible that he is telling you the truth.

Answer 4

sure its possible if the addiction is strong enough. I dabbled in cocain when I was younger and partied a lot but luckily never succumbed to addiction. It is not well known why addiction affects some people severly and others no so much. I'm glad to hear hes trying to get help, realizing you need help and not being in denial is the first step to recovery. Good Luck to you guys

Answer 5

Wait until he gets the help, then try to work things out. His mind will be more straight and focused then. I agree with alot of the other people. You need to talk to him nicely and understand that it is an addiction and he WILL NOT get better and YOU WLL NOT be able to talk to him seriously until he gets the help. My heart goes out to you and I want to wish you the best of luck. Whatever you do, if you love him, don't give up!!

Answer 6

Well ... give him a chance, don't leave him now. Why don't you offer him some help. Think about something could help him. maybe any group with the same drug problem . like AA. or Professional help. If you have children, talked to him about it. Tell him that if He doesn't love himself then at least change for your lovely children.

Answer 7

Its very common for drug addicts to hang out and do lines of cocaine and heroin for days. They usually are "firing up" or injecting into their veins when they do this. Some actually inject into their penis to keep from being discovered.
Please re think your relationship. Its not really worth it to live with someone who has a dependence on drugs.
I have a girlfriend who's husband would do drugs for days in a row. He was locking himself in a bedroom walk in closet, masturbating while he was shooting up with cocaine. He overdosed and she had to break into the closet to get him out.

Answer 8

Drug Abuse—There Is a Solution! :
- Who Takes Them?
- Why DO People Abuse Them?
- There IS a Solution to Drug Abuse
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/7/8/article_01.htm

Can We Save Our Marriage?
- Trapped in a Loveless Marriage
- Why Does Love Fade?
- Is There Reason for Hope?...
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2001/1/8/article_01.htm

"My question is... is it possible that an addict could seclude themselves for hours doing this without contact to the real world?"

From what I understand, that's not unusual.

Answer 9

I liked to do my drinking alone, I never cheated on my woman. She almost left me after I got arrested, but now with her help, AA, and the grace of god I am doing better. I could not have made it through it with out her, but if he wants to keep you he needs help, and AA or NA can do it, suggest it to him.

Answer 10

you need to leave him but yes its very possible to seclude yourself for that long if not longer. drugs need to be taken seriously and when stupid people get their hands on them they let it take over.