He proposed to me in December, and we arent getting married untill 2009 but i want to ask him his opinions on our wedding, but he brushes my questions off, and he tells me that he wants to be with me all the time but i feel really neglected ....he goes out and parties all the time and it feels like im not important to him ...and whenever something bothers me his answer is everything will be okay hunny ...every time .... i feel like a big part of my needs are missing i just want some attention....help
2007-05-08 16:49:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it sounds like he is locking you into place for the future....i love you i want you but not right now...he is no done playing around. and who knows if he will be ready in 2009..
if you live together move out ...sometimes a it takes a hard kick in the head to get someone to see whats important..
you can wait till he is ready and just hang till 2009 and hope things get better.. after your married
or what i would do is give back the ring and tell him to give you a call when he is ready to make a serious step to YOUR future together. that should get his attention and lay it on the line for him.. dont go all its me or them.. but tell him how you feel and what you expect..
Men a thick headed , unless you are a tv and beer they really dont hear you unless you slap them in face and say listen
2007-05-08 17:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by cpljdog 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he is being really condescending to you. It sounds like he only gave you the engagement ring to force you to stay on the sidelines while he is out playing the field. If he won't even talk to you about getting married after proposing, and doesn't want to get married for three years, something isn't adding up. Dump him and if he changes his ways (NOT claims he will, but actually does change for a long period of time) then you MIGHT CONSIDER taking him back. Right now though, you should get rid of him so that you can find Mr. Right who will give you the attention that you deserve.
2007-05-09 02:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not quite ready. Was it his idea to make the wedding out so far?
Also, though my fiance freaked out right after we go engaged because he spent 6 months planning our engagement weekend and then was hit with all this wedding stuff.
Most guys unfornately don't want anything to do with wedding stuff except show up. But, maybe he'll come around my fiance did.
2007-05-09 15:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by erink1799 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is up to you. If you want to marry a person who is not attentive,
and parties without you, that's what you'll be getting. Why the wait til 2009? Something doesn't add up. Think about this really well and be honest with yourself.
2007-05-08 23:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't sound like you two are a right fit. I'd re-evaluate whether he is the right person to marry....believe me, his actions will not change after marriage.
2007-05-08 23:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Christina T 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is showing you what it would be like to be married to him.It will only get worse when you are married you might want to rethink marriage to this person.
2007-05-08 23:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jim C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...2009? Big red flag! What could he possibly be waiting for?
2007-05-08 23:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jazziland 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is that your wedding is WAY too far away. Move it up a lot more, then it will seem more real to him.
2007-05-09 06:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hes probably scared
2007-05-10 02:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Proud New Mommy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋