the wedding in a month and she has not paid anything money on it. I have called her about it and she said yes she still wants to be in the wedding, but has not done anything else.
2007-05-08 16:08:33 · 28 answers · asked by tanlaask 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've been in 19 weddings, four of them as a maid of honor. Not once did a bride buy my dress. I did, and not only does the maid of honor have to do that, but she has to help with decorations, flowers, making sure all the other bridesmaids have their stuff together, the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, not to mention holding the bride's hair if she's had a wee bit too much to drink. A maid of honor should always be a close friend or family member who understands the responsibility of honoring the bride.
With that I say, if she's not doing her job, and there are no circumstances preventing her from doing it, it's time to bump her off your list and move on to the next in line or your second choice.
2007-05-08 16:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have it worked out where she is to pay then no you should not have to BUT she may not be able to afford it and does not want to tell you. Some brides work it out where they pay half of the cost.
For my wedding I only had my maid of honor so I paid for her dress but if I had more then just her it would have been hard to pay all for everyone's so I would have offered to pay half and they pay half.
Many people do not pay any and let that up to the people in the bridal party but when this happens the bride needs to remember $ when it comes to picking out the dresses. I have seen some brides pick out $500 dresses and the others just could not afford them.
Offer to pay half (if you want and can afford it) and see what happens then, if she still wont do a thing then maybe it is time to look for a new maid of honor.. actions speak louder then words and if she says "she wants to be in it" but time is almost out and her dress is not ready then her actions may say different..
Congratulations on your big day to come :)
2007-05-08 16:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In only a couple of the weddings I have done the brides family have paid for the dresses. I have also done weddings that the bridesmaids paid for the dresses. I think you should tell her one more time that she needs to pay for her dress or find another maid of honor. And do it soon because if you dont you are going to be panicking in a few weeks.Good Luck and Congrats, Daisy
2007-05-08 16:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by daisydownsouth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did i just make this up or did I actually hear someone tell me once that it was sometimes customary to have the bride buy the maid of honor's dress? Just hers no one elses? I think I heard that!? Don't know well if it's not true then ya'll should at least go half way or everyone cheap in for it. IF ANY ONLY IF she really is a good friend or worth being maid of honor. HEY MAYBE she doesn't really care or want to be in your wedding. ARe you really good friends like best friends? Cause I just had a friend come over and tell me that she does not want to be bridesmaid in this girls wedding and she is FLAT BROKE so she aint buying no dress if the bride wants her to be in it then she can buy the dress for her. So check your friend, make sure she does want to be in it or she is a good friend. Also she may not come out and say it that she doesn't want to be in it.
2007-05-08 16:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well most maid of honors and brides maids pay for there own dresses shoes, etc. You pay for everything else so no need to pay for hers,If you pay for one all will want you to pay for theres too. If she cant pay for her own then she dosent need to be in the wedding. The nerve of her! Tell her if she dosent take care of it be this week then as much as you want her to be in your wedding you will be forced to find someone else. Good luck and congrads!!! I was gonna say to buy it and make her make payments to you but i saw on judge matias a bride did just that and ended taking her friend to court because i was gonna mess up her credit and the girl still hadnt paid so, if she cant pay than no need for her to be in it.
2007-05-08 16:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the bridesmaids should pay. Of course I also think they should be allowed to choose the dress too. As long as its an acceptable style, and matching in the color scheme. I was my sister's maid of honor, and considering I have an odd body type, that made things much easier for both of us, I showed her the ones I liked and could get in and she chose the one she liked best.
2016-05-18 22:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of the bride paying the MOH but maybe she's broke and too embarrassed to say something. Ask her again and tell her you have to know now because the wedding is in a month but she hasn't paid for her gown.
2007-05-08 17:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think back in the olden days, the bride did purchase the material for the dresses, as they were usually made by a family member and material usually isn't too expensive. But nowadays, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, nails, bridal shower, bachelorette pary, it really adds up and can stress out the easiest going bridesmaid.
Have an open conversation with your friend about what's going on. She may be holding out, hoping you'll just buy the dress for her. Maybe the responsibilities of Maid of Honor are too much for her and she'd welcome a chance to back out.
2007-05-08 16:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the bride should not pay for the maid of honor dress. It is customary to give a gift to everyone in your wedding party, but purchasing the attire is their own responsibility, you are just to tell her what to buy.
2007-05-08 16:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by curlysax24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The tradition of "who pays for what" has changed somewhat, specially in today's modern world of dual income and independent couples who pay for the entire wedding themselves. For those who still consider tradition important in financing the wedding, you'll find this outline helpful in "assigning" expense responsibilities.
Bride
Groom's wedding ring
Groom's wedding gift
Gifts for the bridal attendants
Bridal attire and accessories
Wedding consultant
Bridal luncheon
Groom
Bride's engagement and wedding ring
Bride's wedding gift
Gifts for the groom's attendants
Marriage license
Officiant's fee
Groom's attire
Boutonnieres for groom's attendants
Honeymoon expenses
Bride's Family
Wedding invitations and announcements
Transportation of bridal party from ceremony to reception
Wedding reception
Florals for ceremony, reception, bridal bouquet, bridesmaids' bouquet, corsages
and boutonnieres for family
Photography
Videography
Musical entertainment
Groom's Family
Rehearsal dinner
Boutonnieres and corsages for immediate family members
Attendants
Rental or purchase of wedding attire
Travel expenses to and from wedding city
Wedding gift for the wedding couple
Bridal/Coed shower
Bachelor/ette party
2007-05-08 22:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Paradise Weddings & Travel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋