How do modern day couples finance their wedding?

Question

Traditionally, bride's parents pay for the ceremony/ reception and the groom's parents pay for the honeymoon.

Answer 1

My fiance and I are paying for it all ourselves as did my sister and i think most couples do it that way now. I personally think that if you don't work and can't pay for your own wedding, you shouldn't be getting married. Those old traditions are stupid. I think adult children relied on parents way too much back then. Plus, i wouldn't want anyone paying for my wedding anyways because that would mean they have some say in it and i want it all done my way. As long as everything is done how i like, i don't mind forking out the cash.

P.S. I knew someone who took out a line of credit at the bank to pay off their wedding, and it wasn't even all that big or lavish. I personally would not do that.

Answer 2

I've always been under the impression that the brides family pays for the ceremony/reception, the grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner and picks up what the brides family can't afford. The bride and Groom pay for the honeymoon

Answer 3

I paid for my entire wedding. It was about $2,000 dollars with the church, flowers, my dress, vail, shoes, bridesmaids dresses, tuxes, reception hall, cake, food (all of which I made myself for 300 plus people - I spent a solid three days before the wedding just making the food!), dj, drinks, and rings. As for a honeymoon, we were both in the military at the time and never went on one, and even if we wanted to, we couldn't have afforded it anyways. My parents never have and never will pay for anything for me (not even a car or gas money), and my husbands parents are always broke because they blow all their cash and only call and talk to my husband once every six months and that's only if he wants something, so nope, we paid for it all. I've heard about the bride's parents paying for the wedding, but I've never heard about the groom's parents paying for the honeymoon... I always thought that that was the couple's responsibility. Good luck though! :)

Answer 4

I think the couples that are able to finance their own weddings are the couples that get married later in life, when they are financially stable and have real careers. It's usually the kids getting married out of school or college that expect their parents to pay for everything. My husband and I paid for our entire wedding (although cash gifts from guests ended up taking care of most expenses). I would have felt awful asking my parents (or his) to pay when both of us made more money than either set of parents. We didn't think about getting married until we were able to fully pay for our wedding and honeymoon (although we did put all charges on credit cards to get the rebate points....we just paid it off in full after the wedding).

Answer 5

Today the bride and groom pays for their wedding and any donations by parents are just that, donations

Fiance and I are putting aside some money into our wedding account each month and putting our income tax refunds towards the wedding.

Answer 6

My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding. My parents are helping a little with the reception, and his aren't helping at all.

We planned the whole thing out well in advance, and will have the whole thing paid off before it even happens. Taking out money for a wedding is silly. You'll be paying for it for years!

Answer 7

We were fairly traditional, but we kept it down to around 2-3 thousand for my parent's burden. His grandparents have a tradition where they donate $1200 for the honeymoon. His parents paid for the flowers and the second reception (we were married in Chicago because of my family, but he grew up in California and wanted a second reception near his family).

Answer 8

Not all true. The groom is suposed to pay for some of the flowers. If you can do most of the flowers, decorations, and make the food your self then you can save a tom. It really isn't hard. Good luck.

Answer 9

With most couples working and independent, they pay for the wedding themselves. Save up during the engagement, then plan the type of wedding which fits their budget.

Answer 10

It's ideal to not have to finance your wedding, this adds so much more cost with finance charges. The best thing to do is to apply for a credit card that will give you either an unlimited balance or a general high balance like Amex or Citibank. You are sure to get at least 10 g's or more, that should be enough to start laying down deposits for everything.

We started a bank account for just the wedding and have only one visa card for that savings account, which his mom has since she is our wedding planner and is expected to be at all major purchases anyway.