i know he will not go back with her so thats not it
2007-05-08 14:53:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why don't you ask your husband? He is the only one who knows for sure!
He probably means he promises to work together with her to raise the child... not work against each other. And that's a good thing... good parents should do that.
2007-05-08 15:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by trollunderthestairs 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
More than likely it is agreeing that no matter which way life moves the both of them, they will raise their son as a unit. It is important although the parents are not together to be in sync with one another when raising a child in separate households. This is the point where the child will think they can get away with something or try to pull a fast one. She is probably just restablishing the parental link that they share with hopes that they will not disappoint their child.
Too many times nowadays, women and men are having babies without thinking that you are linked to this person for the rest of your life because you have a child -- and these same parents do not raise their children together and who loses out -- the child.
Let him do his part as a parent and don't forget your part as a step-parent. Perhaps you should talk to her to discuss her ways of handling things (punishments, play times, etc...) so that way you can show her and your husband that raising him is just as important to you.
2007-05-09 14:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means that even though they're not together, they will act civil to each other, and love their son as if they were still together. Nothing will change for their son, just that mom and dad aren't "together" anymore, but they'll still care for him and treat everything that has to do with the child as though nothing has changed. The best thing to do in that situation is to be a friend to the child, help them when they need it, treat them like you would a friend, make it so that the kid knows the difference between you and mom, cuz you're not his mother, you're his step-mother
2007-05-08 22:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by I_am_Meg_Griffin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hun...
When your husband said "together", I think that he meant that he and his ex would both be active parents in his son's life. That deosn't mean that he has to be with his ex to raise his child "together" with her. It just means that he will be there for them. I think that is wonderful. Not all children have that in their lives. You should feel greatful that your husband cares enough about his son to want to be active in his life.
But if his statement bothers you, you should sit down with him and ask him exactly what he meant. He's your husband and I am sure he loves you very much. I'm sure he'll be honest with you and explain it to you. Just be mature about it when you talk to him. Let him know that you are not worried about him being with her, but you just want him to make himself a little clearer on what he said. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck with your situation.
2007-05-08 23:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by rebel_cowgirl78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That meant he is going to be there as the child's parent. It is good that they are looking at it like they are doing it together. It is best for the child.
It should make you proud that you picked a man that doesn't just drop his child when the wind blows a different direction.
You are now also a part of that. You have a lot to offer the child. Look at it like you are also looking out in the best interest of the child.
2007-05-08 22:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by lovin life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he doesn't want to be a deadbeat dad. That he intends to be there for his son and to have a united front with the boy's mother. This is a good thing, they should raise their son together. There will always be a connection between him and the boy's mother but, as you know, that doesn't mean he's with her.
2007-05-09 00:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probably means just that he will be there when he is needed for support , mentally phycially and in all ways that a parent should be even if they aren't together. And that is good , that is still wants to be a part of the child's life. And should be. And that should also include you as part of it.
2007-05-08 23:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by angelbnanny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably just that he promises to always be an equal parent to a child he cares about. He will not become a deadbeat dad, and he will not try to undermine his ex-wife's authority over their child.
2007-05-08 22:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Krista D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That he intends to have an active role in the raising of their sons. If youre unsure or insecure you should probably ask him about it.
2007-05-08 22:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by miss m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will do things with their child. Like movies birthday parties, and things like that until the child gets old enough to know the real life behind his dad.
2007-05-08 22:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ready G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋