I am at day 2 of my dads recovery from colon surgery.. i was at the hospital all day.. didn't want to tire him out, so went in to his room every hour for a few minutes ..to let him know I was there.. How does one know.. if its too much for a person.. visiting? Surgeon has not contacted mom and I, about how the surgeyr went..or if the cancer has spread.. we left message..nothing.. is this common practice..or is no news, good news? Thanks too all, thahave been helping me these weeks.. really got me through some rough evenings/nights. I just can't wait till morning.. to go and see him.. the nights (I live alone)..are the worst..
tx Christine
2007-05-08 14:51:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
With all of the privacy issues, Doctors may not be talking because your Dad has not given them permission. Does that sound like something your Dad might do? If not, you and your Mom should ask.
If you are spending a lot of time in your Dad's room, let him set the tone. If he is not talking, stay quiet. I took cross stitch to do when sitting in my Dad's room. When he wanted to sleep or watch TV, I stitched. If he wanted to talk, we talked.
Hang in there.
2007-05-08 15:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lorre W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The surgeon will probably only talk to your dad about how his surgery went. There are so many laws governing what a physician can tell a family member, they usually dont give any information to the family.
Also, sometimes it takes a couple of days to get a pathology report back to determine how far the tumor has spread. The pathologist can be slow and sometimes they send samples off to other labs like Mayo clinic, and other University hospitals.
Hang in there. Your dad should be up walking by now and on the move. The nursing staff would probably love it if you offered to help him walk.... like roll the IV poles and oxygen tubing.
Prayers are with you as always.
2007-05-08 17:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Christine.
Do the doctors visit your dad daily? My dad was also undergoing surgery. He had a bit of his colon removed because there was a tumor there, also something like megacolon. His doctors visit him daily, and give us the informations on developments etc.
I stay with him whenever I can. It's been almost two weeks. I find my dad looking more cheerful or hopeful if there are his kids around him. My mom passed away last year.
It's okay to visit him however long you like if it's allowed. The hospital let one family member to stay overnight to accompany my dad. You can stay with him, and give him support and encouragement. Also help him in small things, like giving him water, fluff his pillow, basically just make him more comfortable. Also be there if he wants to talk. If they feel lonely, it can stress them out and delay recovery.
God bless. And I hope your dad gets better soon.
2007-05-09 23:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by ira a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with you Christine. I don't know if it's common but I do believe some doctors can be so cold. I pray everything will be fine and the cancer hasn't spread. I also pray that will find a cure for this disease soon.
2007-05-08 15:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Christine' sorry about your dad having to go thru this cancer thing 'but he;s so lucky to have a loving daughter and wife to help him cope with all he;s going thru...I lost my mom to a lung disease and when she was in the i,c,u. i would just go in and rub her hand with lotion and tell about how things were going at home,,,,Just knowing that he has family that will be there for him ' will make recovery much faster and better,,,,,good luck and god bless your whole family especially dad......Shelly in Seattle
2007-05-09 01:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cami lives 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon on even if he's in surgical treatment on the time or no longer. no longer something icier than replacing what become once colon textile back into anothers. hi, isnt that how the A.I.D.s virus were given all started. uggg!
2016-10-18 06:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by costarakis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋