I have already broken my hymen and I have tried to have sex three times and each time im in tears when he isnt even half way in. and it isnt just the guy because i have tried with two different guys. help?!?!
2007-05-08 13:29:37 · 52 answers · asked by Reese 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you probably need to relax more. use more lubrication, go at it VERY slowly.
you may also need to get a dildo so you have FULL control over the amount of penetration until you get used to it.
2007-05-08 13:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first few times will hurt, because you're using muscles you haven't used before. Make sure you have plenty of lube - and make sure you are safe! Use a condom every time - and do not use more than one per go as "doubling up" creates holes.
You should also get tested for a sexually transmitted infection, because some can cause pain during sex.
And jeeze, slow down! You have your whole life ahead of you - there's no reason to be sleeping with every guy in town. That's just asking for trouble.
2007-05-08 13:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
By your question and the little information that you just gave us, it does sound like you're not lubricated enough for vaginal penetration.
In other words, you're not stimulated enough, at least not enough for sexual intercourse.
Ask your lover to offer you plenty of foreplay to get you lubricated and juicy, so to speak, otherwise it will always hurt, no matter what you do.
Or it may be that you're naturally small in your nether regions; in which case, you will need more patience and T.L.C. than most.
Childbirth could also be more painful, unless you have a child by Caesarean section (or C section).
Good luck to you!
P.S. How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?
2007-05-08 13:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a gynecological issue here. Pain during sex is called "dyspareunia". This is an actual medical condition. It could be physiological, psychological or even both. Go see your gyn doc, they may be able to help you figure out what the issue is, so you can actually enjoy sex. A tilted uterus is not uncommon, however, it doesn't cause pain during sex. Go check it out. Oh--and don't "bare it" for him-it's not fair to you. Why should you be in pain, while he enjoys himself?
2016-05-18 21:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by suzan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a few times until your vagina is not so tight. The pain you are having is from your vaginal walls streching when the guy puts his penis in. A good way to help is to use lots of lubricants as well as lubricated condoms. Make sure the lubricants are water based, NOT OIL BASED or else the condom will break.
You may also want to try being on top so you can control the motion, not him as well as using lube, it will make the guy feel better too.
Good luck.
2007-05-08 13:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by n1fighter 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I looked through all of these answers and everyone failed to ask your age... You have got to be young for it to be hurting that bad... And why did you state "I have already broken my hymen"?? You surely didn't break it yourself, but your opening statement makes your question sound false. One would think you would have said, "I have already lost my hymen" I hope your of age, because your question sounds fishy, and if you require lots of lubricants, well, that even sounds more like your young, as when you are not yet developed horomones that are absent fail to increase vaginal secretions, thus making a premenstrual girl-- dry! I would stop having sex, cause it sounds to me like you are way young, and I can't believe no other answers caught that
2007-05-08 13:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the same thing happened to me. in fact it still does and I've been with my husband for over 5 Years. My doctor told me that it's not because I was small or because his penis was big. It was because every time I had sex, my Vagi. would return to the "virgin" size. It never stretched out. But I agree with some of these people. Take a breather, see a doctor because my problem may not be yours.
2007-05-08 13:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're doing it wrong or with the wrong person. I had a friend who only ever had sex with one person and she thought it hurt and hated it. Then she got divorced and got a boyfriend and feels very differently now. Also because you think it is going to hurt you probably tense up before you even get started.
2007-05-08 13:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by icemunchies 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably, you are in pain because your body is not interested in having sex with that person.
If you decide to have sex with more than one person in this age of disease, your body is probably smarter than you are.
My advice is wait till you really love a man, and he loves you, and you marry, and he waits till you are really interested.
Furthermore, your husband might want to read a few books on foreplay, if he has not already.
If however all else fails, buy sexual lubrication jelly at the drug store. I have read that is the medical solution for hard to solve lubrication problems.
2007-05-08 13:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Romneyminn@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it might hurt a little the first few times you have sex.......it is normal for the first couple times cuz u have never done it before, but if it keeps hurting really bad for months and months, then see a doctor---------and dont listen to those people who say it is because you are not supposed to be having sex and god is telling u to stop
2007-05-08 13:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok sounds like sumthin is definately not right here... like no offense but mayb u should go get urself checked out.
sex isnt supposed 2 hurt that much infact its the opposite its not sopposed 2 hurt at all.
i dunno how old u r but r u sure ur doin it rite?? mayb this is jst a sign that ur not ready 4 this. sorry.
2007-05-08 13:50:04 · answer #11 · answered by shes_white 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋