ok so i can talk to any guy however i want and say what i want and be perfectly comfortable but with the guy i LIKE, im just like this retarted shy girl! i dont want him to think im like that, how can i talk with him better? anything i can say to him to start a convo?
2007-05-08 13:17:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you have common interests, or something like that. Talking about the place and circumstances you're in also works wonders, for example, if you're in a bowling alley you can talk about if he played a lot when he was little, get it?
Just relax, act naturally and nothing can go wrong. The worst thing that could happen, is that he just wants to be friends. So? There are other fish in the ocean.
2007-05-08 13:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by totafea23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehehe, booya
*ahem* Im going to tell you what you already know about conversation starting. Why because you are unsure when it comes to one guy :)
Just talk about anything that you may have in common (situation wise). Like if you are in the same class talk about that. Start by asking his opinion on the class or something then keep going from there. Keep the questions open ended and try to make them so he cant answer in one word.
Once you stop being so shy you will realise that you can talk to him just like any other guy (except you will be hella scared of stuffin up)
2007-05-08 20:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I act the same way. I get all shy around cute guys. I've figured out that your have to just talk to them as you would any other guy and then things just start flowing. Try to find out his hobbies or favorite TV shows and see if you guys have anything in common.
2007-05-08 20:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by laalaa115 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling.
What I did ?
Walk up to him in a big group of friends, and bring along your friends - the ones your comfortable with. If you hear somewhere you can jump into the conversation, taaaaaalk !!! Being around others will make you less nervous, even though in the back of your head youll still be thinking "hes riiight there !!" Trust me, if he wants to notice, he will.
2007-05-08 20:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by MC KRUSTI G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find things that you have in common.
ask him questions about himself, but don't make it sound like you're interrogating him. if it makes it easier, come up with a list of topics ahead of time, so when you're talking to him, you can remember your list and keep the conversation going. also, when you're talking to him, never answer his questions simply. never just say, "yes." or "no." or "okay." when he asks you a question, he's trying to start a conversation, so give him something to keep the conversation going. for example, say WHY you feel the way you do, or how you feel about the topic. he's probably just as nervous to be talking to you, as you are to him.
i really hope this helps!!!
2007-05-08 20:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by jointheclub0720 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guys are freinds at school just ask him a simple question about what homework is due or something simple like that and then when the time is right.. ask him if he's seen a new movie that came out or tell him you like his shirt/ shoes etc, ask him how life is going for him, ask him about football or any sports he plays... Just remember to BE YOURSELF! Don't make him believe you are any one else but yourself!
2007-05-08 20:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well..first off u dont want to look overbearing or loud..so shy can be a good thing..look at it as u havent really given him a reason not to like u..and to start a convo..hey how are u?? is always ok..try and let him know you're not shy
2007-05-08 20:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by celeste c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know exactly how you feel, he gave me butterflies everytime I talked and I sounded like a freaking High School chic riding the short bus to school. After about a year, of the same stuff, we called it quits, I just couldn't believe I could not hold my own with him, I wanted someone I could be myself around and he wanted a smart chic. ARRGGHH, I'm smart I was just socially retarded around him.
2007-05-08 20:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and relax, At first, it may be hard but once you get to know him, it's not that hard to talk. Just talk about the first thing that comes to your mind. If you are watching TV, tell him to turn it on and talk about the show together. Talk about how your day is going so far or anything. But just remember to be yourself and relax.
2007-05-08 20:21:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I think some men love shy girls, those girls became very rare, some times to be natural is better than being unreal. I know that you want to be not shy with him, but what we want is not always true. our natural behaviour is good because it let's us be more closer to people whom we love. I really suggest that you be as you are. good luck
2007-05-08 20:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by Yasser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋