How to learn to forgive someone who's hurt you?

Question

Just how do you do it?
Do you have your own experience/example in ur life? and how long did it take you to forgive this person(s)?
why do they say to learn to forgive yourself?
For allowing the person to take your personal power away or what exactly?

Answer 1

I began to forgive when I seen how strong I had become , and what the experience had taught me
when you can see a lesson in everything , then you take from it
and yes forgiving yourself is also included in this for allowing things to affect you in a negative way
but knowing that you will never allow it again

Answer 2

You have a choice to take offense at someone's words or actions. Taking offense is not a condition, but an allowance to occur. Set the offense aside, and if you must, go to the person that first offended you. They may not know they had offended you.

"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
"But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." (Matt. 6: 14-15.)

Forgive the person and forget the circumstances. Leave the judgment to the Lord, for when we forgive others, we free ourselves from hatred and bitterness. Forgiveness is the miraculous ingredient that assures harmony and love in the home or outside.

Just do it!

Answer 3

It's tough!!! There is a person that broke my trust big time. (and no I'm not talking about my partner but it is someone close to me) I thought he was the most trustworthy genuine person ever but boy was I ever wrong! I still find it hard to forgive and forget and I can hardly ever believe a single word this person says anymore. Once a person breaks ur trust, it's very very hard to be able to trust them in the same way u used to.

Answer 4

Oh this is a hard one. And one you just have to work through. You can't force forgiveness. But you can try to understand where that person was coming from or what drove them to it. Sometimes by doing that and feeling empathy, the forgivness will follow.

Answer 5

Ask the person what you have done so that you can ask forgiveness.
You have to have the mind of Christ that would make you feel everyone else is superior to you. Humble yourself. Pride goes before a fall.
We have to learn to be humble by changing our personality.
You have power over satan if you take the situation seriously and make love govern the situation as you gain your brother.

Answer 6

Realize that by not forgiving someone, you're only hurting yourself. The person that harmed you obviously doesn't care, and they're not losing any sleep over it. Just forget about it, pick up, and move on.

Answer 7

Bring it in prayer to God, asking Him to release you from bitterness and resentment, and leave it at the altar of prayer.

"Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." -- Col 3:12-14 NIV

"And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you." Ephesians 4:30-32 NIV

Not forgiving will keep you emotionally bound to the person that offended you. Know that there is hope in God's promise of His salvation to you through Jesus, for atonement of all our sins.

In reality, our humanity will grieve and feel sad. God understands this, but He also offers us a solution: Forgiveness.

Repeat in prayer over and over again: "I forgive you, ______, and release you in God's care."

Answer 8

To make a real long story short, forgive them and then change your geography by at least no less than 500 miles.

Answer 9

well the only way to forgiven is the time, and letting God to help u take away the pain, just try to involve ur self in other things little by little u will see u forget or it doesn't bother u no more. God blees u

Answer 10

Forgiving someone isn't about saying "what you did was okay" but it's telling that person that you aren't going to let them hold you capitive anymore.