What do you do if you know someone who doesn't like you?

Question

So what do you do if you know someone who doesn't like you? And it could be for something you don't have much control over like your appearance, ethnic background, religion, or maybe it's the way you talk. What do you do if you have to be classmates with this person? Or worse, co-workers.

Answer 1

I wouldn't stress too much about the reason "why",my theory is let a pig wallow in his own ****. I believe if a person is gonna hate me or judge me for something, especially something I can't change, then so be it, I let that person carry that hate,not me and I don't stress over it ,I don't think about it, I just don't acknowledge it,I carry on just as I would any-day,and if my presents upsets a co-worker or classmate then they should probably asked to be moved to a new location. In their case it's either get over it and grow up or move on.

Answer 2

I have a co-worker who hates me.

She immediately disliked me from the day I started. She has absolutely no reason to hate me! Her best friend worked with us as well, and she and I got along great! I asked her what her friend's problem with me was, and the girl couldn't even give her best friend a reason!!


The way I deal with this girl is a sort of "kill-em-with-kindness" approach! I am SO nice to her, and it drives her CRAZY! I figure its a waste of energy to sink to her level.

Take the high road. Let people be haters. You know you're better than that, and that's all that really matters.

Answer 3

It can be hard to accept when you know that someone "just doesn't like you." The reasons you've listed as possibilities for not liking someone are rather petty. If someone chooses not to like you over something like that, good riddance! But don't let them muck you under.

This may sound silly, but it works. Come up with your own mantra, something that you say to yourself when this person's around, like, "I have a nice smile, I'm friendly and most people enjoy being around me." Also, treat the person as you would any acquaintance, sometimes you say hi to them, sometimes you don't. Remember, if you keep your chin up, you'll always come out ahead.

Answer 4

You show them extra love or prayer, because that's the only way to raise the energy. It's the only way to turn them around. And even if they don't, the people who see your enlightened way of dealing with conflict and it will give them a seratonin boost and strengthen their immune system. Imagine someone running up to Jesus or the Buddha, "Please there are robbers in there, prostitutes, thieves.. Please go in there and talk to them!" now imagine them responding "... Ugh.. Prostitutes? Thieves? Robbers? Ugh.. I hate dealing with those type of people, they just bring me down, I can't stand being by those type of people.." It sounds silly, but those Avatars were here to show us the proper way to live. People like Martin Luther King and Mahatma Gandhi knew. Monks know. It's like St. Francis said. Make me a channel of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me bring love, Where there is Darkness, Light and so on. Raise the energy. Show this person love. That person only knows how to do what they learned to do from all of their circumstances up until now. Perhaps maybe, just maybe if you show them the proper influence they'll see how foolish they are to hate someone who genuinely loves them. Eventually the logic goes back onto everyone. The most common thing to do is reciprocate what is given to you. If someone is mad at you, it's easy to hate them back. If someone is loving towards you, it's easy to love them back. But it's those who can give love in response to all things given unto them, that are the most profound and advanced spiritually. The best action to take is the one that makes you feel the most contentment and satisfaction with the situation. You know the choice that is right for you. Do that.

Answer 5

Make sure that you don't leave an opening for them to get in and hurt you. Try to be friends with them. As Solomon said, " A soft answer turneth away wrath."
You would be supprised to how much this works.
Be friendly if they smirk, and when they are sarcastic, don't return it. Never say anything nasty in reply. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Try to win them over by being nice.

Answer 6

When I was younger, I might let it bug me...you know drive me crazy. I still, to this day, don't like it much when I know someone doesn't like me.
But, now that I am older, I don't really care if someone doesn't like me based on my appearance, bank account or whatever other shallow thing I might be judged on. I am to the point in my life where I know what I stand for, I know who I love and other peoples opinion's of me are really none of my business.
I have had to work with people I don't like and that don't like me. You have to sort of let it go, whether you are in class or at work, you have to let it get to you. Just perform the tasks at hand, and don't let the trivial things interfere.
Rule #1...Never let your obstacles be larger than your goals.

Answer 7

I was in a relationship with a guy who clearly his family didn't like me because I was Egyptian...since it's from the middle east and i'm brown. i was degraded, and traumatized with the way they treated me and the things their SIX YEAR OLD son said to me. he didn't know what he was saying, his poor family just sat and assumed that i'm some muslim terrorist...which is hilarious and ignorant because not only am I a religious CHRISTIAN but i'm not even arab. not that it even matters......people should not be treated like trash because of what they could be/look like. it's quite sad.

then i had a group of muslim friends who made fun of me all the time only because they were jealous, and tried to make it like they were all better then me/richer/whatever.

but there is nothing you can do...don't treat them the way they treat you...it's stooping down to their level.

Answer 8

If it's something trivial like race, religion, ect.. then that person needs to suck it up and get the fact straight that people are different. You don't need to do anything except be your good ol' self, and let them worry about stupid sh!t like that.

Answer 9

be completely civil to them, and act as though you could not possible give a crap what they think of you. like you are so far ahead of them, their thoughts arent worthy of penetrating your influence. like they so completely do not matter to you that you have to be polite, because to be anything other would imply that they have some sort of effect on you. it wont stop them from not liking you, but at least you get to feel superior.... people with unreasoning prejudices, by definition, can not be reasoned with. rise above it.

Answer 10

Ummm... I can tell you what I DON'T do... Care.
Classmate... Stay away from him/her.
Co-worker... As long as that person leaves me alone, is polite, and doesn't talk about me behind my back, I don't care.