I went thru a very bitter divorce and tolerate my ex for my 8 yr old son's sake.My son is making a gift for his mom in school but if he asks to buy his mom a gift what should i say/do?
2007-05-08 10:42:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would take him. My parents divorce was bitter at best and while they would never buy something for each other they would take us because no matter what at the end of the day our parents were just our parents. I loved my dad and mom even if they didn't love each other and had either one of them been resistant to the shopping excursion it would just put more of a wedge into our relationship than it needed to. Just keep that in mind if you can and encourage his relationship with her if it's a healthy one.
2007-05-08 11:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that regardless of your relationship with your ex, you should respect her as the mother of your child enough to take him to purchase a gift for Mother's Day. Doing so, you are setting an example for your son to respect his mother and always acknowledge special occasions. Every parent should make sure that such times are celebrated by your child with the other parent.
2007-05-08 13:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never show animosity for your ex in front of your child, so the best thing to do would be to go shopping with him, and let him choose something. That way the gift is not from you, but you are 'supplying' your son with money to give his mom a great gift.
Kudos to you for thinking of his feelings.
2007-05-08 11:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by oisian88 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course you take him to get a gift. He loves his mom and wants to get her a nice gift and he has no way other than you to be able to do that. Regardless of what transpired between the two of you, she remains forever more your son's mother and you will be your son's hero if you let him choose something he thinks his mommy will love (Regardless of whether she follows suit at Father's Day). Now if he thinks she'll love a spider man doll from Toys R Us, that is NOT your fault! LOL!
2007-05-08 16:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Marianne D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to buy a gift...she is not your wife but she is the mother of your child and you need to step up to the plate and be a great dad and support and assist this young child
2007-05-08 12:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom took me to buy present for my dad and she still despises him for what happend over 23 years ago.....take your son in 10 years you'll never have to connect with her agian .....unless he gets married and then you'll have to stomach her for the wedding
2007-05-08 12:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by cal_gal_81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to give his mom the present he made for her at school that would mean more to her than a store bought.
2007-05-08 14:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋