I love him with all my heart and soul, but i don't want to elope. i want our family and friends at our wedding ceremony, and i know he wants that too. He decided this last night after a phone call with his mother and brother i guess. i was ease dropping at first but than i stop. He came in the room and told me what was said on the phone and i got mad. because the way he told me mad me think that his family doesn't like me at all. His mother told him she doesn't think that he is ready for marriage. but he says he is. does his mother really know best? I knwo i love him so i am always going to have to deal with his family. they are jamaican and he is the child of 13 his family is big and family is everything to him so i know that it took a lot for him to want to elope. he say's his mother wants to control his life and he is not going to let her run me away. I just want him to be happy, so should i elope? would it be easier?or should we have our big wedding like we both planned? Help me?
2007-05-08 10:25:12 · 6 answers · asked by tasheema22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Whoa, whoa... You're over-reacting. It's just one conversation. Talk to him when you have both calmed down. There are a lot of options that lie in between "eloping" and a "big wedding". How about a modest-size wedding with just the closest friends and family? Talk to your fiancé and explore the options. Be open to suggestions, and he will open up too. Don't get stuck on the "big wedding", and you might just find a compromise you are both happy with.
2007-05-08 12:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to find out the reason that she said he is not ready for marriage, that does NOT mean that his family does not like you.
How long have you been dating and how long have you been engaged? Have you ever met his parents?
It is up to both of you if you want to elope or go with a wedding.
2007-05-09 02:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely from the sounds of it.. you have in all possibility already had the large experience as quickly as, perchance even 2 cases, so i can comprehend your reluctance and desire to easily elope, perhaps you need to fulfill her someplace interior the middle, perhaps an incredible wedding ceremony on your outdoor or at an incredible backyard or park close on your place, with only close friends and family contributors, shop it under 20, or only have your little ones, permit her have her day, yet shop it small and specific! sturdy success and supreme desires , desire third time is a attraction!
2016-10-30 21:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your under the impression his family does not approve of you then eloping won't solve anything...you should do what you want to do and if his fmaily doesn't approve of you then if your guy is a real man they won't see much of him and/or any grandchildren he might bring into this world
Talk to him if you want your wedding you should have it its about you two enjoying your day....once your married he is your family and his parents and so on take a back seat
2007-05-08 12:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by cal_gal_81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of wedding you have is the least of your problems. I say have a really long engagement because his family is nuts and he's letting them get away with it. Wait awhile and then start planning your wedding.
2007-05-08 17:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer this question.
Eloping is NOT going to help your situation with HIS family.
What about YOUR family? How would they feel if you eloped.?
2007-05-08 12:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋