how can mothers continue to disappoint their children even as adults?

Answer 1

Because you let her. Even if you have the worst mother on earth - she can only disappoint you to the degree you allow it. You cannot expect more than someone is able to give. Some mothers just don't have anything to give. You have to pick up and move on - the live you make is yours!

Answer 2

This is a tough situation and I am sure you are very sad for your daughter. I would continue what you are doing in terms of keeping the lines of communication open, while pressing the importance of some kind of realtionship. If for whatever reason she just cannot handle that, then I would instead try and maintain some regular contact with her brothers. Even if it means meeting the boys without the first mom. Ultimately, no one can make her stay in her daughter's life. I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but kids are smart and I'm sure it hurts her. It sounds like you are trying to do the right thing for your child and I hope your child's first mom will come around.

Answer 3

Mothers aren't perfect, unfortunately. Most of us try as hard as we can, but still manage to screw up from time to time. And, unfortunately, there are those mothers out there who just stop caring when children are grown past a certain age.

It sounds like you're having some issues with your mom; best of luck - I can certainly commiserate.

Answer 4

Mothers can only give as much as they're capable of giving, just like anyone else. Either your expectations are too high, or she just doesn't have the capacity to be what you want.

You really have to learn to accept people, including parents for what they are.

I love my parents. I realized when I was in my 30s a couple of things:
1. I loved them..no matter what.
2. I would NEVER get them to approve of me. It wasn't something they were capable of, and I was expecting too much from them.
3. I didn't actually "approve" of them either.
4. If given a choice, I wouldn't pick them as friends.
5. If given a choice, they wouldn't pick ME as a friend.

It made me realize it was a good thing we were related, and I could just love them..because they were my parents. It made it all so much simpler.

Answer 5

When your mother have high hopes for you and you let them down in doing so. They are good at always making you feel guilty about all the things you done wrong in your life and for some reason it always reflects back on to their life's, because as they say "I raised you better than that"

Answer 6

yelling at their children, being without a job, depending on their kids for money, crying over stupid things.

tell your kids you are sorry for all the bad things you ever did to them.

recently my mom apologized to me and my brother for yelling at us when we were kids because she watched the neighbor lady yelling at her kids and how annoying she was and she had a flashback of thats how i used to be...
me and my brother are grown and moved out im 21 and hes 26, im very sad my mom didnt learn this lesson 10-15 years ago... so i told her it doesnt matter im still going to put her in an old folk home for a few years as punishment.

Answer 7

i wish i knew the answer to that question myself. my bf's mom treats him like **** i've talked to her before because it just gets way outta hand and she doesn't care. she'll tell him things like you're gonna die alone and never amount to nothing!! how could you say that to your own child and not apologize to them or even feel the least bit bad. but i think the reason is she's unhappy herself and doesn't like to see that her son is living a better life than she is and isn't always depressed anymore because of what she tells him. i think its just honestly to make themselves feel better about god knows what. so when you find the correct answer to this question please let me know!!!!!

Answer 8

hey mabey your bing to critical on her

Answer 9

NAG AND YELL