I have asked 11 girls to the prom and no one gave me a yes. I felt so depressed. I didn't mind going with a friend but all the girls seem to think of it as "your date is you boyfriend". So I always got a no. Then I overhearred my friend talking about being uncertain whetehr or not she was going to go. I talked with her about it and she said I'm gonna think about it. But she said it in a way that means yes.
Naturally I was excited, but when I got home I realized something. "She's a lesbian"!
I have nothing wrong with homosexuality, I just think that its going to be kind of awkward. I came to the prom hoping to dance and maybe get some romance but how would it work with a lesbian!! i don't want to make her uncomfortable because from her point of view it would be like me dancing with another guy. Dancing with the wrong attracted sex!! I can't seem to find anyone else and the prom is in three weeks!! Am I overreacting or what?
2007-05-08 10:07:31 · 20 answers · asked by leafshadow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Focus less on sex and more on just going with your friend and having fun. Just because her door doesn't swing your way doesn't mean you can't have fun on the dance floor.
I got dumped three weeks before my prom, and ended up going with a friend... and had a way better time than I would have being nervous with a date!
2007-05-08 10:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bud. Go with the lesbian. She agreed and you'll be on your best behavior. Who knows? This may turn out to be a long and enjoyable friendship. But don't go entertaining any idea that you'll be able to get her to 'change". She apparently wants to go and maybe you can make it a fun night for the both of you. Who says romance has to be involved? just being with someone whose company you enjoy is enough.
So no...she isn't an unusual prom date. Want to know what classifies as an unusual prom date? Going to the prom with your mother. Think about that. I'd enjoy the company of a female..lesbian or not...over the stigma atached to taking your Mom. So you see my young, teenaged friend...it can always be worse.
Have fun sport and behave like a gentleman.
2007-05-08 10:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your post seems a little contradictory to me. You seem upset that girls think of prom as a boyfriend-girlfriend thing. But, then you say you are looking for a little romance? You can still dance with a lesbian. Just enjoy yourself. You can always dance with other girls (if your date is cool with it.) So, don't push it. Enjoy the experience. Forget about romance. Have fun.
2007-05-08 10:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by January 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just go with her as friends? Prom doesn't have to be about slow-dancing and hotel room sex. It's about friends hanging out together and having fun.
Don't freak out about her being a lesbian - you're not having sex with her, just a few innocent, friendly dances. She won't do anything she's uncomfortable with.
2007-05-08 10:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think less about the sex and more on just going with your friend and having fun. Just because she will not put out doesn't mean you can't have fun on the dance floor.
I got dumped before my prom, and ended up going with a friend... and had a the best time!
2007-05-08 10:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anil P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down - a lesbian is just like any other girl/woman
sounds like you had already moved on to asking girls to go as 'just friends' (if you were really hoping for more - like to hook up - then these 'friends' probably sensed that and didn't want to 'lead you on') So, you've asked a friend, and she's probably going to say yes. Go with her and have a great time! Treat your date with respect, dance with her, pay her compliments on her dress, buy a corsage - all the normal things. Don't put any moves on her, that'd just mess up your friendship (hey, it would probably not have worked on the other girls you asked as 'friends' either). Other girls will see what a classy guy you are - trust me, girls do notice how guys treat other girls. Have fun!
2007-05-08 10:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had prom this year too and from my experience I would say that the pre-prom drama about who your date is doesn't really carry through the actual prom. Figuring out who you're going to prom with can be very lame and overdramatic. But when prom rolls around no one even cares who you're going with. It might be a little lame during the pre-prom stuff (taking photos, limo, whatever), but during and after prom it's very insignificant. If you're going with a lesbo you can't expect to have a romantic experience at prom. Just have fun with your friends, and I guarantee no one will even think twice about it. People are very involved in themselves and socializing on prom.
2007-05-08 10:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by misleep1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay babe. I think whether you have a date or not, go to the prom! This is one of the best moments of your young life. You will kick yourself twenty years from now when you look back and see that you didn't go because you didn't have a real "date". Just go with your friend and enjoy yourself. Just because you go with her doesn't mean that you only have to dance with her. Mingle, and enjoy that happy moment in your life. I guarantee that you will have an awesome time.
xoxoxo
Good luck!! :]
2007-05-08 10:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by Forever the Sickest Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of lesbians that will dance with a guy, if she is your date she will probibly dance with you.
And if you were thinking about going with a friend then why would you be thinking about a little romance with your friend?
Go, have fun....the prom is just another dance!
2007-05-08 10:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got annoyed with my prom date at the last minute and gave him the boot. I took my sister as my prom date and we had a blast.
Go to your prom whether you have a date or not. Don't over think it, just enjoy yourself.
2007-05-08 10:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋