I just got a phone number from the girl I like. I'm pretty sure she likes me too. We're friends but not really good friends. How long should I wait before I give her that first call and what are some good conversation ideas? Also is it good to have a conversation plan written on paper ready when I'm talkin to her?
2007-05-08 09:55:29 · 23 answers · asked by eddie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1 day, women need to know they are being pursued and wanted, so don't wait any longer. Do NOT have a conversation plan written out. It will destract you, and it will seem like a line to her. Just ask her a lot about herself, let her talk more than you. Make sure that you are really listening! Ask her a bunch of questions, make her feel that your really interested.
2007-05-08 10:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Rae-Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't who came up with the "wait two days rule," but as a female, I think it's stupid. The worst that can happen if you call her is that she'll say she's not interested. However, if she is into you, then she'll appreciate you calling. I say if you like her then go for it. As far as having a conversation planned, it's not necessary. If you premeditate what you are going to say, then that would mean you not exactly being yourself. So what if there are a few awkward moments of silence. When starting a new relationship, this can be expected. Good luck!
2007-05-08 10:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by sophierhymes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its pretty obvious that she at least likes you as a friend! she wouldn't have given you the number in the first place if she didn't like you right? I wouldn't call her the next day but i wouldn't wait forever either sooo i would say wait two to three days after she gives you the number so its in between! since your not the only one talking on the phone she will fell the same way about talking to you BUT DON"T just go blank and not say anything at all! to start out ask her how she is doing and just let it flow.converstaion is all about the flow!
2007-05-08 10:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 days exactly. but remember the golden rule - only call her 1.5 times more than she calls you! play coy and pretend to pretend that you don't really want her really really badly. it will come off sweet if done right.
don't plan your conversation out before hand, unless it is the first time you have phoned a girl ever. you will sound like stephen hawkings if you do - and thats not something many girls look for in a partner(apart from the brains that is)
anyway, good luck - if it works then you will laugh at these insecurities later.
2007-05-08 10:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by weet_a_bix_are_better 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes you, trust that she's thinking about you as much as you're thinking about her. It'll make her day to hear from you the following day. If she seem "kind of" interested, I would wait maybe 2 or 3 days. Girls, like guys, like a chase (sometimes). If she wasn't really feeling you and you don't call her right away she'll think that you think she wasn't good enough for you, and that'll make her want to appeal to you more (even if originially you didn't appeal to her that much at first). It's weird, but it's how we are. You can win a girl over who originially didn't like you by acting like she doesn't appeal to you either. lol
Conversation topics?
Talk about the event that lead you to getting her number (your date, or the concert you were both at, etc). Then stem to a similar event that'll be happening soon to see if she likes those kinds of things. If she does, then ask her to go with you to it! You just set up a date!
2007-05-08 10:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by Me-han 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first met my husband he called me 2 hours after I gave him my phone number, but he asked if it was okay 1st, but still shocked me and made me feel good. However, the next day or 2 is good to call.
Jot some ideas down on a paper, you bet. It's good for the awkward silent moments.
2007-05-08 10:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call her the next day, but being a girl I will tell you this. If I give a guy my #, that means I thought he was cute, I would want him to call me the next day, but if he calls me with 2-3 days, it makes me wonder for a while if he was really interested in me. Give her time to think and wonder. When she least expects it, call her........dont wait too long, she might not want to talk to you then.....
2007-05-08 10:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait as long as you want or until you have something really interesting to call her about, and never plan out your conversation. Call her right now if you want. you could talk about your question, she might think it's cute that you were nervous.
2007-05-08 10:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.G's wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a couple days so u dont seem desperate, but not so long that it looks like u forgot about her. so like two days after u get her number. well u can talk about common interests u know u both share. and sure if u think writing a few notes on paper will help go right ahead, but please please please make sure that u dont sound like ur reading a script or something cuz it gets a little weird when things like this are rehearsed. (they're supposed to be spontaneous ;)) i really hope it goes well for u!!!!
2007-05-08 10:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by alkdfjlkasdjlkdf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least wait a couple of days you don't want to sound desperate. Talk about whatever comes to mind. Try not to be nerves, a girl can hear that in your voice. Be calm and cool
2007-05-08 10:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Christie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋