i sat next to this kid since january in economics class and i just foind out he was run over by a train. probably a dumb question but should i go to the wake or funeral?
2007-05-08 09:48:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've never regretted going to a funeral. I do regret the times that I have not gone though.
2007-05-08 10:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really bothers you, just go to the wake and "sign the book."
Funerals are not for the dead, they are for the survivors. The kid who was killed will not appreciate your presence, but his friends and family will. Funerals are social occasions for the living. You show your support for the bereaved family, and you may get to visit with some of your friends.
The husband of a woman with whom I used to work died last week, and his viewing was on Sunday with the actual funeral service on Monday. I attended both events. It was not because I particularly liked the decedent. I did it out of respect for his family. I also did it as an opportunity to see some people that I used to work with on a daily basis. So, you see, I could be criticized for having a selfish motive for attending both events.
No, I did not go for lunch with the family. An announcement was made during the service that all present were invited to be guests of the family at the Lighthouse Restaurant, but I did not go. I felt that it would be "mercenary" of me to go to a funeral in order to get a free meal.
2007-05-08 20:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funerals are really not for the dead, but for the living. They are a way of saying good-bye to the deceased person and moving on with your life. You may not have known this kid well, but you did know him. He was a part (maybe very small part) of your life.
Please go to the funeral. Even though you may not have known him well, his passing will leave a space in your life. Going to the funeral will bring "closure" to you.
2007-05-08 17:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you speak with him in class? If you didn't, I won't really go. If you did, but he was still just an acquittance go to the wake. If he was becoming more like a friend, both the wake and funeral.
2007-05-08 18:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Stephen K's answer. Go to the funeral if you can, but you can skip the wake if thats too difficult (and, of course, if there IS one..)
Be sure and speak to the mother or father and tell them you were a classmate, and say something nice about the deceased. "He always made me smile" or "He loved to be kind to the funny looking kid" or something nice.
Its a brave and wonderful thing you can do for his family.
2007-05-08 17:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. You only get this one chance to show your respect.
His family is really torn up right now, the more people the better at the funeral.
2007-05-08 16:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the funeral. The wake is up to you
2007-05-08 17:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good morals to honor the dead by attending the funeral.
2007-05-08 17:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should go and give support to the family. it may be a difficult thing to do, but doing this shows that you care.
2007-05-08 16:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Janine C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and please encourage other kids to go. You will not regret it.
2007-05-08 17:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋