Sometimes I go home right after work instead of picking my daughter up right away to get stuff around the house done and also to pay bills etc. It's now nice out so she likes being at daycare to play outside and sometimes is upset when I pick her up because she is not done "playing" with her friends. It's only for the most 2 hours extra I keep her there. She is 5.
2007-05-08 09:46:46 · 18 answers · asked by Ari's Mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
hi , dont be so hard on yourself ,you are a working mum who is trying to do 100 different things at once ,she loves being there ,at least when you do go home with her your time goes on her and not the other 99 things you have to do ,give yourself a break ,she is fine and you are a wonderful mum ,hugs to you and your daughter xxx
2007-05-09 02:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom you have responsilbility for most things around the house. I could name 5 things that you could do around the house before you picked up your daughter. So I think it's just fine for you to leave your daughter at the day care for an extra 2 hours. She's having fun and your getting stuff done, hope this helps!
2007-05-08 16:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by shelbyroxhardcore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not "bad"... but sometimes can be considered inconsiderate from the daycare's point of view. You really should not leave them there for more than 9 hours total. The daycare may expect you to be there by 5:00 (for example) and will need to move a teacher in another room. If you don't get there until 6 or 7, then that may leave one of the rooms with more children than the ratio allowed by state laws. I definitely wouldn't make it a habit. If you do have to, i would make sure to let the teacher know that you are planning on being later.
2007-05-08 16:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Stef C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's fine! I know, once in a while I take a sick day for myself and have my daughter in daycare and I can finally get stuff done! It's impossible to get anything done with a baby in the house. My baby loves daycare, too, so I don't feel that bad. But I know the other moms and the daycare providers think that it's really selfish. Too bad! I work full time, and I work all weekend, taking care of her, and never have any time to myself.
2007-05-08 16:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with it. In fact, sometimes I've been known to do the same. I have 18 month old twins and if I get off early, I'll leave them there until my normal working hours are over so I can get some things done. No harm, no foul. I still spend as much quality time with my girls as possible. My girls also cry when they have to leave their friends at daycare. They truely enjoy their time there. Best of luck to you.
2007-05-08 17:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think all of us parents do it. I have taken a whole day off of work before just so I could get some "me" time. You will be a better parent/spouse if you do get some alone time and time to get things done without being interrupted 500 times. Think of how much more quality time you have for your daughter by taking an hour or two for yourself!
2007-05-08 16:54:00 · answer #6 · answered by personalwrappers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a smart and caring mother you are!
It's better for her to be there with playmates and supervision than being told she must stay inside while you do house chores and can't supervise her safely outside. Also, grocery shopping is not fun for a 5 year old. When she's a little older you can begin teaching her such things. Once in a while take her along to see how she adapts to it. You'll know when she's ready to shop with you. Good luck.
2007-05-08 17:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by TexasStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it is sometimes tough to do certain things while she is around. BUT, she is only going to be little once...and you are at work 40+ hours then there is the time she is sleeping. That doesn't leave you with a whole lot of time together. Take her with you on those errands...cherish every moment you have with her!
2007-05-08 16:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that she would love to spend that time with her mommy. You only have 'em little one time around, when they are older you'll wish you had that time back. Take her with you, it's your child! They are providing a service for you and your daughter. She's been playing all day with her friends, let her spend time with her mom. You'd be amazed at what you can learn about each other in two hours time.
2007-05-08 19:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say its "bad" . . but it does seem selfish. Even if your are taking the extra time to do chores and errands . . your daughters time is best spent with you. She's 5 . . I'm sure she's capable of helping you with some things and wouldn't mind tagging along to run errands. Maybe you should ask her . . . she might tell you she wants to stay with her friends. . or you might be surprised to hear that she wants to be with you even if you are just cleaning the house. I'm not saying you need to let a 5 year old make your decisions . . but it can't hurt to know her opinion.
2007-05-08 17:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Drew's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋