Women, can you tell if a guy is lying to you?

Question

I'm talking about a guy that you don't know too well, but you're attracted to him. If you can tell if a guy is lying to you, what are the signs that you look at to make that determination?

Answer 1

If his mouth is moving he is lying.

Answer 2

How to detect lying:

A truthful person will be "congruent." That means that all the information they give out -- their words, body language, they way they live and dress, everything -- fits together and contains no contradictions. People who lie will be incongruent in some way.

Here's what to watch out for:

1. How they use words, written, on the phone, or in person:

* Talking faster or slower.
* Changes in voice pitch.
* Taking charge of conversation, attempts to distract you.
* Continual denying of accusations.
* Unusual voice fluctuations, word choice, sentence structure.
* Stalling the conversation by repetitive use of pauses and comments like "um" or "you know."
* Lack of use of contractions.
* Prefers emphasizing "not" when talking.
* Being extremely defensive.
* Saying "Trust me."

2. How they behave or the attitudes they exhibit:

* Being hesitant.
* Nervous laughter.
* Smugness.
* Uncommon calmness.
* Providing more information and specifics than is necessary or was asked for.
* Inconsistencies in what is being shared.

3. In-person behavior clues:

* Touching chin, covering the mouth, or rubbing brows.
* Crossed arms or legs.
* Pupils narrow.
* Playing with hair.
* Body language and facial expressions don't match what is being said such as saying "no", but nodding head up and down.
* Avoidance of eye contact, eyes glancing to the right, staring past you or down, or turning away from you while they are talking.
* Rigid or fidgeting.
* Slouching posture.
* Unnatural or limited arm and hand movements.
* Partial shrug.
* Lack of finger pointing.
* May place a barrier such as a desk or chair in front of self.
* Sweating, even if it isn't a warm day.
* Saying "no" several times.

4. Your own inner cues:

You sense something is not right. Explanations do not feel enough for you. You feel confused, you find yourself squinting or angling your head. You feel a block or a wall between you and the other.

Reasons people lie:

* To avoid conflict.
* To avoid the consequences of their behavior.
* To postpone having to make changes in lifestyle.
* To hide something they did or did not do.
* To avoid rejection.
* To be in control of a situation.
* To avoid being embarrassed.
* To make themselves appear more successful, good, or talented than they really are.

Answer 3

Yes. Men aren't that good at lying. They look away when they speak about it. Looking to the right is a sign that you are thinking of what to say. Looking to the left is a sign that you are recalling from your memory. I might have that backwards.

Answer 4

Ofcourse, You listen to his speech...and ask him the same question with different wording but u cant make it obvious...I look 4 nervousness and how he speaks about diff things...His maturity level tells alot...

Answer 5

Kimberly - Yes, you have it backwards.... Right is remembering or recalling, left is lying.

Answer 6

My guy blinks and blinks ( He has very long eye lashes) and talks really fast. That's how I know.

Answer 7

well. you know guys are pretty good liars. therefore it is difficult to tell. but wen he says something to you but walks away to his friends and laughs then you should know he is a jackass

Answer 8

have faith that he's telling the truth until you have a reason to believe that he isn't...