They are not married, but she has children?
2007-05-08 08:56:40 · 24 answers · asked by flyaway 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you're going to her home on Mother's Day, a hostess gift is a nice neutral way to go. (eg. a small token gift, such as flowers, a box of chocolates, or a platter of cookies.) If you're not going to see her on Mother's Day, then you don't really need to get her anything. If you or your father are having her over to your or his home, again, a small token gift would be nice. There are some really pretty blank-inside cards that you could write your own message to her, instead of buying her a traditional Mother's Day card. Although, I wouldn't be surprised if there's a "Happy Mother's Day to My Father's Girlfriend" card out there. Just kidding ;~)
Either way, if it'll make you feel good to give a gift, then do it. Just make it a small "token" gift.
2007-05-08 09:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely not. It could be a nice signal when you truly accept her as your mother and want to do something special. That she has children does not mean anything. The mother next door does not receive a gift from you either.
Don't get her a gift. Your question says enough. I do not think she would want you to (if she does, she is wrong, but she is a mother herself, she will know). It is not a question of etiquette but of a special and honest gesture.
This does not mean you do not like her or do not accept her. It only means she is not your mother.
If you do not feel comfortable with this because you like her, a way out could be to give your dad and her flowers telling her it is not because you want to say she is your mother, but that you accept them being together. But only if you feel that way. Not as being obliged by etiquette.
Nice to have a free choice, isn't it? You can not be wrong!
Succes!
2007-05-08 09:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Stillwater 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a mom, a contemporary is often perfect for ALL mothers on your existence - yet don't experience too obliged to pass out of your way. i might say a tasteful card or small bouquet of plant life from the community grocers could do it... yet according to possibility do it after she's in mattress the night till now so it rather is a ask your self (makes it greater ideal for her) in the morning.
2016-10-04 14:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that all depends on you. If you feel some sort of attachment to this person than sure a nice simple card would suffice.
I agree with the poster above me who said if you are strapped for cash you don't have to or if you feel uncomfortable.
The rule I have followed with parental bf/gf and Mother's Day and Father's Day is this if we are close then you get a gift. If we aren't close I will at least acknowledge your standing as a mother/father with a simple verbal Happy Mother's/Father's Day.
2007-05-08 09:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Gloria H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They make cards for your situation. "Remembering you on Mother's day" kind of card. Go to the Hallmark store, and look around, you'll find what you need. It depends on your situation, and what she is to you.
A gift or flowers isn't necessary, I bet she would be thrilled with a card. But, if you have a good relationship with her, a little gift couldn't hurt.
You did not say if she lives with you and your Dad, but if she does, definitely do something to recognize the day, and that she is a Mom. If she is a Mom to you, then do get her a little something, as your budget allows. A bouquet of flowers is a traditional present. Keep it small, maybe try to find out her favorite color, or flower, and have it in the bouquet.
2007-05-08 11:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Unless she's been in your life a long time and has acted as a sort of mother to you.
She has her own children who I'm sure will buy her gifts for mothers day.
Maybe just a card would be nice if the two of you are close, but if you don't really know her all that well, I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-05-08 09:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have to...especially if your own mother may not approve. However, it would be a nice gesture if you have a good relationship with her. Also, it may depend on how long your father has been dating her. If it's a new girlfriend then it might be overstepping the boundaries a bit.
2007-05-08 09:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by sophierhymes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's not your Mother. You get YOUR Mother a gift. If the girlfriend has kids, then they get her a gift and the girlfriend gets HER Mother a gift. Got it?
2007-05-08 09:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how long you've known her.
She girlfriend, not step-mother or engaged to your father.
If their relationship isn't "official", then I don't think you "officialy" have to get her a gift.
I guess I'm stating the obvious, thats probably why you asked in the first place.
You know your relationship to her, do what you feel will be comfortable.
2007-05-08 09:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have been together for a long time and she's decent to him and to you, then I would get her at least a card. If you will be seeing them for Mother's day then you might want to get her a small flowering plant or a small bunch of flowers, in addition to a card. If you forsee that she may be in the picture for awhile, it's in your best interest to keep things positive.
2007-05-08 09:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋