i am 17 years old and i have lived with my real dad and step mom ever since i was 2. we have never had a good relationship or even a relationship at all and im afraid that because we have never really had a relationship, that we never will. i think that she feels that she still has to compete with my real mom for my attention and love. how can i improve this relationship and do think that it will ever get better? I need help ASAP! this means alot to me! HELP PLEASE!!!
2007-05-08 07:51:02 · 6 answers · asked by babyspice200267156 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it seems like i dont help the situation any though because i've been in a lot of trouble with the state of ks for the past 3 years and i just got back into my home in january. i try really hard to make her happy and please her, but it doesn't seem to work. it doesn't help my self-esteem any when she compares me to my older brothers and sisters. in fact it really hurts!
2007-05-08 08:31:30 · update #1
You have taken the most important step already, realizing that it is not where it could be or at least it could be better. That and the fact that you want it to be better. That shows a lot of maturity on your part and that is awesome. Now what you need to do, is ask her if sometime in the next few days, if she would make some time for you, so that the two of you (only) can go get a coke and talk. I am willing to bet that she feels the same way you do and all that is lacking is one of you to step forward and ask the other to talk. Take the initiative and ask her. You will probably make her day, month and year. Tell her how much she means to you when you go talk and tell her that you would really like to build a stronger bond between the two of you. You can have a nice talk with her and probably put as many of her fears to rest as yours. Just make sure that the two of you go someplace where you can talk with out interruptions and stuff.
2007-05-08 08:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with your step-mom. I think that it will get better if you sit and lay everything on the table. Let her know that she doesn't have to compete with your real mom for your attention and love. Tell her that you love as if she were your real mom. I was the same way you are. I hated my step-mom for the longest time, but then I sat down one day and just talked to her. Now I have a great realtionship with her. I can talk to her about everything and anything. She is always there for me, even though I am 22. Good Luck and I hope this helps.
2007-05-08 08:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do the same things you do with your real mom with your step mom but maybe a little different, and tell her you would really like to try and build a relationship with her. Let her know your feelings hurt everytime she compares you to your brothers. 17 is an age you need all the support fro mall that raised you because you are fixing to get out on your own and tell them you would like to know they are there.
2007-05-08 08:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to your Dad? Tell him you would like to improve the relationship with your step-mother and ask for his help. Let him know that you know you have been in trouble but that it really hurts when you are compared to others.
Good luck honey, step parent relationships are rough.
2007-05-08 08:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could talk to her about organising a girlie day out (maybe to the salon or on a shopping spree) to improve your relationship. If that doesn't help sit down with her one day and talk about everything you don't know about eachother. Once she see's how fun and loving you can be your relationship will improve!
2007-05-08 08:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
flow to a diverse state or someplace different then the city then your mum is staying. tell the police that the guy is hurting her or will harm you. go away with this guy as you're patently extra advantageous with him then your mum and her companion, yet f you do not want your mum to get harm tell the police. wish this facilitates!! beexx
2016-10-15 03:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋