ashamed by my depression please help!?

Question

i think i may have depression, as i have nearly all of the syptoms of it, for at least a year now. thing is, i am embarrassed to get help from my doctor, because it measn telling my family. (im 14). i dont know what to do. i need help, but im ashamed. i dont like sharing my feelings. please help

Answer 1

It's not your fault so don't be ashamed. Depression is caused from an imbalance in your body's chemicals. You can't snap out of it anymore than someone can snap out of diabetes. Depression is a physical disease. You are not crazy. You are quite bright to be aware that something is wrong. Please talk to an adult you trust -- someone who can help you. If left untreated, depression can be very serious. It can ruin your school grades, relationships, worklife, and make life difficult. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Well, I am 40 years old. I am a psychologist and have various other degrees. I have been published in several prestigious papers and have written a couple books. Does this mean that I should be ashamed that I am bipolar. We all must come to terms with our defects. I know that it is hard. Last year my father died and even though he had been abusive in his earlier years I was heartbroken. I turned the hurt inward and within a month had my second nervous breakdown. I feel it is important to let those close to us know about these things. Those people become our support network. Most will help by listening and just being around. Some will not understand and might even make fun of us or see us as weak. This is a good way to weed out those around us who are unfit of our friendship. As human beings we are defined by our sufferings. It is these things that we really grow from. Be yourself and be proud. Don't be afraid of reaching out to others for support and help. Some meds take a while to reach effective doses in our systems. And sometimes we need to try different meds to work better for us. It is hit and miss. And this takes times. I'm sorry but that is the truth. Don't give up and don't blame yourself. Get a counselor for "talk therapy." Keep a journal of your feelings and day to day stuff. It will help keep track and will show improvement or backsliding when refered to. I hope this has helped. Please remember all things happen for a reason. God Bless.

Answer 3

at fourteen, you cannot be diagnosed with depression. Clinical depression develops over a couple of decades. What you are experiencing are the symptoms that go along with the hormonal changes your body is going through in the teenage years. Some have a harder time with this than others. What might be of benefit to you would be some counselling and you can get that from a school counsellor or a minister, and they can't tell your parents due to confidentiality laws. As for being ashamed, I cannot imagine why you would be.....it happens to a lot of teenagers, you have no control over what your hormones do to you, but you do have some control over what you do about the effects, and often just talking to someone helps a great deal. Part of maturing is learning to talk to people about what we feel, time you started thinking about growing up a little and find yourself a counsellor.

Answer 4

I have suffered from depression since the age of 17. Getting to a doctor was the best thing for me. I feel better now that I am on medication. I would strongly recommend talking to your parents. There is nothing to be ashamed about. Alot of the times, depression is hereditary. Maybe they will know what you are going through! Good Luck!

Answer 5

I personally have suffered from depression off and on since my teenage years. I don't think you should feel embarrassed by your depression. You can't help it. And good for you for reaching out for help. hat is the most important thing you can do to help yourself. Know this...with treatment (therapy and medication) you CAN feel better and lead a happy, normal life. It is well within your reach! Maybe you can start by talking to a counselor at school about how you're feeling. They can help you to find a good way to approach your family about it. Because ultimately your family wants the best for you and they want you to be healthy and happy. And treating your depression is vital to your happiness and well being. The depression you feel isn't your fault and you shouldn't feel guilty for having it. It would be like if a person had cancer and felt guilty about it...or didn't seek treatment for it. It's the same. So, talk to a counselor. I know it is a scary thing to do and you might feel overwhelmed by it, but force yourself to go. I promise you, you won't regret it! Best of luck! I hope this helped.

Answer 6

Maybe you should think about talking to someone at school , maybe a counsler,tell them you want confidentiality. You shoud try to take care of it before it gets out of hand which it could do, you don't want to end up hospitalized.Maybe you just need therapy or mild medication.If your feeling suicidal,sleepless,anxiety,depressed most of the time you need to tell some one immediately don't be ashamed. Your family loves you they'll help you there are ways you can feel better you don't have to suffer.. Please tell someone I've been there! God Bless

Answer 7

I highly recommend you tell your doctor. If you have clinical depression, it will not just go away. Tell your doctor that you don't want to tell your family. Maybe you two can work together to find someone you feel comfortable speaking with. Sometimes that is enough. Love, there are lots of us out here and no reason for you to feel ashamed.

Answer 8

Never ever be ashamed about the way you feel. There are many other people in this world feeling the same way that you do. If you feel you can't talk to your family then make an appointment to talk to a counselor at your school. It is very important that you talk to someone.

Answer 9

NEVER feel bad about feeling bad. Yes, it's possible that you have depression, but teens go through stuff. Get it checked out--If you ARE depressed, you can get medicine to help regulate your emotions. It's not a big deal- and certainly nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 10

Listen to me. I am depressed and I dont tell anyone.I take no medicine and I am also suicidal.Its not a big deal.