My almost 3 year old daughter has started hitting herself when she is angry or frustrated. She went through a stage were she would try to hit us, but she leanred not to do that by getting a time out. So now she will slap herself or even sometimes bite herself..... and the time outs don't seem to be working as well. Any advise? Could their be some other underlying issue?
2007-05-08 07:16:20 · 12 answers · asked by M 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I stay at home with my daughter, so she is NOT sexually abused. And My reaction to her when she does hit herself is I tell her to stop and not to hurt herself. I do not get angry or yell at her.
She is the love of my life and I would never want to yell or berate her in anyway. Thanks for all the responses so far!
2007-05-08 07:37:46 · update #1
My daughter does the same....they're mad and don't know what to do. Try giving your daughter something else to do if she's mad....tear up papertowels or tissues or construction paper or newpaper...go outside and kick a squishy ball at the house, etc. Time outs are being replaced by "redirection"....mostly (I think) cause the kids are learning that if they're willing to accept the "time-out" then they can do whatever they want...and basically, the "time-out" isn't teaching them what they should be doing...only that what they did wasn't right. Anyway, I think if you give her something else to do instead, she'll be ok. As for mine....once she gave herself a bruise, she stopped.
2007-05-08 07:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No,my daughter doesn't. I'm actually a bit worried that she'll get bullied in the future. The other day, a 17 month old just threw a book at her, the same girl who grabbed toys off other kids at playgroup. I think the worst is those childrens mothers do nothing about it... (of course, some with common sense apologize or tell their children off.) But you will be surprised that some just pretend they didn't see anything!! PS. That girl is YOUNGER than my girl. My girl is 22months!! And when she was 16 months or so, some boy at another playgroup literally knocked her over and climbed over her to get through.
2016-04-01 02:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 yr old son does the same thing. I just let him do it. I tell him he's only hurting himself. Once the tantrum is over I ask him if he's ok. He'll either start all over again or he'll say I OK Mommy ! I know it's something that he'll outgrow. It's just his way of trying to get attention (and I know it) so I don't play into it. After a few minutes he stops and goes on to something else.
2007-05-08 09:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have any kind of hyper active thing going on. It sounds like an anxiety attack. Kids do that when they don't understand things. My niece is nine and she does that when she's frusterated about her homework. It's also attention seeking. I'm not a mom yet so I don't know hun.Just telling my opinion. Good Luck with the lil doll.
2007-05-08 07:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is is 14 months and started to do the same thing at 10 months. They don't know what they are doing, all they know is that they are mad and need to hit something, Try holding her hand when she does it and say No,No, don't do that. Well, it work with my son. Good luck
2007-05-08 09:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you react when she hits herself? If you act upset that she hits herself and worry over her, that's attention she's getting from you. I think it's this attention, not an underlying problem.
2007-05-08 07:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by IDon'tWantToLiveOnTheMoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to seek out a child psychologist. My son used to do that and he has ADHD. There are several conditions that cause young children to do that. It doesn't hurt to seek them out and have them assess your child. They'll see the behavior and know if it's normal or not and have suggestions on what to do. It sounds like you are doing a great job. Good luck to you and your daughter.
2007-05-08 15:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Our 16 month old son does this as well. We've tried telling him not to do it (asking him not shouting at him) but he looks at us with determination in his eyes and tends to do it again. We've ignored him but he still keeps on going. I think it's a bit like a control thing. He knows not to hit us, but how do you stop him hitting himself? We are keeping on with ignoring it when it happens and hoping he will just eventually stop.
Sorry no magic answer but you aren't alone!
2007-05-08 09:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by mrsmac 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just a phase my 2 year old nephew does the same thing. But i would call and ask your doctor because it might be some thing else.
2007-05-08 07:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS A PHASE. Don't sweat the small stuff. This is small stuff. If she hurts herself, she will stop. Walk away and ignore the behavior. She is looking for a reaction from you. Don't give her one.
2007-05-08 16:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by trace 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋