2007-05-08 06:57:43 · 16 answers · asked by jmclaudio76 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have suggested to go to the doctor. Don't want to. She says she can handle it. It is difficult since we have a 2 yo girl and a 3 month boy. The only thing that I have found to sheer her up is helping with her fitness schedule.
2007-05-08 07:28:41 · update #1
Tell her a joke, my husband use to tell me this. And it goes:
A little boy goes to his father and asks "Daddy, how was I born?"
The father answers: "Well son, I guess one day you will need to find out anyway!
Your Mom and I first got together in a chat room on Yahoo.
Then I set up a date via e-mail with your Mom and we met at a cyber-cafe.
We sneaked into a secluded room, where your mother agreed to a download from my hard drive.
As soon as I was ready to upload, we discovered that neither one of us had used a firewall, and since it was too late to hit the delete button, nine months later a little Pop-Up appeared that said: You got Male!!!
Hopes this helps you and with Best Regard and let me know if this cheers your wife up!
2007-05-08 07:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by yahooanswers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay home. Never go out without her. Always be wrong. Do all the work (especially half the night shift with the baby).
Keep telling her she is wonderful and beautiful. Get her to take multivitamins (check with her midwife or doctor first, if she is breastfeeding), and hang on in there.
Well you asked!
And since you're not Mr Perfect (no-one is), ALSO get her some medical help.
This is a natural mix of hormone imbalance, shock and sheer exhaustion, but you working hard so that she doesnt feel like a failure or like she's ugly and losing you; that will help more than you can ever know.
2007-05-08 14:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by madbaggage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long she's had it. If she's still feeling bad a week or so after the birth, she should see a doctor. If she literally just gave birth, feeling low is normal. Help her out with the baby as much as you can. Make her a bath. Bring her home a favorite treat. Encourage her to get out and do one of her favorite pre-baby activity-- even if it's just a 10 minute jaunt to Starbucks. I always liked having my friends and family around. She should be feeling better soon, but like I said, if she gave birth a week ago or more, she should see her doctor.
2007-05-08 14:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by writegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her,help out a lot, and give her some special time for herself. Take the baby off her hands.Make her a nice hot bubble bath, light some candles, play some of her favorite songs, or do whatever it is that puts a smile on her face. Then, let her get some much needed rest. Remember to be understanding. I know it gets hard on fathers too. When she is relaxed, you will be relaxed. Best of luck to you both!
Stress less about day to day life. It will depress anyone.
2007-05-08 14:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tamara J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with madbaggage. I suffered from PPD and the most important thing to my recovery was the love and understanding from my husband, a break, and some medical treatment (antidepressants). If she gets all those everyone will be happier including the baby and you!
She can also e-mail me if she wants someone that went through what she is going through to talk to at twentypinkdiamonds@yahoo.com
2007-05-08 14:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between baby blues and true PPD. If it's true PPD, she may need medical help. If it's just baby blues, just make sure you help out with the baby and around the house as much as possible, tell her you love her and that she's beautiful, and wait it out because it'll pass. They told me at the hospital that if baby blues last more than like 2 weeks, that it could be PPD and to see a doctor.
2007-05-08 14:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Amber D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do things to cheer her up. tell her shes beautiful and tell her she has a certian glow that no other woman in the world has, cuz shes caring ur baby. if that dont cheer her up, then take her out to a nice dinner, and for once in ur life, forget about prices. go hog`wild. a baby is a beautiful thing and it needs to be celibreated. let her know that u love her for everything she`s doing for you and that no matter what happens, u always will love her. tell her that u know that the baby will be perfect iun every way because it has a perfect mother. (in ur eyes) tell her not to worrie, and that everything is alright. stress is normal when pregnant, and its normal for the father to not know what to do. good luck with the wife and the baby!!! hope its healthy and well behaved!
2007-05-08 14:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by kaggy t the gurl of ur dreams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to gently persuade her to see her doctor about her depression. This condition is pretty common in new mothers. The doctor might prescribe some mild antidepressant to get her through this difficult period.
2007-05-08 14:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Marie C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has PPD, please, I urge you or her to call the ob/gyn, she will need treatment/therapy. I had a severe case of postpartum depression after my daughter was born and it was a nightmare. I did seek help and was on meds, it was the only way for me to help myself, along with therapy.
Don't let this go. PPD can turn very serious, not to mention life-threatening.
2007-05-08 14:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by VVB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly has post partum depression, she may need to get on medication. Are you worried that she is not bonding with the baby? Is she eating, sleeping, taking care of the baby?
2007-05-08 14:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋