How do you talk a women to move in with you when she leaves in another state?

Question

My GF lives in NYC. I leave in the deep south and want her to be with me

Answer 1

You can't really "talk someone into" picking up an moving. If you have been in the relationship long enough, in time it will be a natural progression to "consider" the aspects of one moving. Changing states is a big deal and there are many things to factor in...leaving family, friends, work etc. If you were to pressure or talk them into moving to where you live and in with you, that hints that they already have reservations about it. If you would need to "talk" them into it, obviously it is not something they are ready to do and...if you were to sway them to do so prior to them coming to that decision on their own, there is the draw back that there may be some resentment if things did not work out well. I am assuming that you have no interest in the city and would prefer she be there where you are so I would suggest taking advantage of any opportunity you have to have here there. Show her around, do things together and participate in things that interest her that are available in your area. If she comes to the decision and sees that the same opportunities exist for her where you live that she now has where she lives; the possibility of making a move might seem more appealing or at least make it open for discussion.

Answer 2

If she wants to be with you, that's fine. If she can uproot herself from NYC and move down south, that's fine too. Do know that moving from NYC to the deep south can result in severe culture shock which is not a criticism, just a fact that the deep south is very different than NYC.

Answer 3

You can't 'talk a woman into moving in" unless she wants to. You need to think about the length of time of your relationship, have you discussed 'marriage'? If I were in that position, I would not move in with anyone unless our relationship was headed toward the alter. I am sure she has her own job, family, friends, etc. and moving from NYC to the south would be a large commitment - one that couldn't be entered into lightly. You must talk with her and find out if she would consider. You can't talk her 'into it'. What happens if she can't find a job she likes - or what happens if she is not happy living the southern life? Communicate.

Answer 4

She has to want to move, that's for sure! I don't think you'll get her to do anything she doesn't want to do. It would really be a drastic change for her to go from NYC to the deep south! She's got to REALLY love you!

Answer 5

IF THE ENVIROMENT IS WELL KEPT ...AN THERE IS NO LACK FOR DIVIDENS ...THEN IT'S ALL ON HER.. BY MAKIN YOUR SELF PRESENT IN HER STATE NYC...SHE SHOULD TAKE YOU MORE SERIOUSLY & YOU MIGHT HAVE A BETTER CHANCE... DONT LEAVE HER IN A BIND WHERE SHE HAVE NO PLACE TO RETURN TO..AN DONT FORGET IF SHE DO OR SHE DONT THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON AT LEAST THE REGRET OF YOU TRYIN WILL NOT EXSIST..YOU CAN EITHER MOVE OR.SHE MIGHT CONSIDER . BUT ONLY THE FURTURE KNOW.

Answer 6

Relocation for a gf or bf is a big deal..when things don't work out, the person who relocated can be in a real bind.

You can suggest it to her, let her know you'd like that to happen, but it's up to her to make that move or not...it's not something to take lightly.

Answer 7

You can't talk her into it, plain and simple. If you ask her if she wants to move in with you, and she says she wants to stay in NYC, then you'll have to either move to NYC, or keep things the way they are.

Answer 8

She probably has not even had a real live date with you yet, so how can you expect that she'll jump at the offer?
Her culture is most likely different from yours too. I think you should find a girl that you can date and go from there with a live-in relationship.

Answer 9

Well first off, how long have you and her been talking? You all need to sit down and talk about the whole moving situation. View your pros and cons and discuss if it would be beneficial for both of you. Please take into consideration school, jobs, and family plans. But everything should be fine. Good Luck.

Answer 10

well this is a tough one.you need to ask her and if she says yes then fine,if not, well you either stay the way it is,or why dont you move to NYC?,this is a tough situation but if she doesn't want to, theres nothing you can't do about it,good luck.