My boyfriend and I have been having problems. I broke up with him a few times before and everytime he calls me back crying saying that he has nothing to live for. I admit that I only got back with him out of pitty. After we got back together he had over 30 cuts on his arms, wrists and legs. I broke up with him yesterday and he's been threatening to kill himself. What do i do?
2007-05-08 06:39:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remind yourself that that cutting is a sign of mental illness, and IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! HE makes the decision to do this to himself, and it's unfair of him to emotionally hijack you and try to force the blame on you.
What you need to do is get him help, immediately. Call his parents, his roommates, his teacher/dean, or his boss... and most importantly, call the police. Tell them he is threatening suicide and he needs immediate intervention.
Remember, this is beyond your ability to heal, so send him professional help.
2007-05-08 06:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly waiting til now, was not the best idea. Call him and see how he's doing and if he still seems suicidal, call the police and someone who is close to him to go over and check on him. it is honestly best you stay away b/c if he sees you he'll just fall deeper into his depression, and may even try to harm you. I am in the same situation, but overall, you have to do what's best for you. Like I told my bf you cannot save anybody. You can stay with him and one thing goes wrong and he's gone. The only person that can save him is himself. I'll keep the 2 of you in my prayers. Be safe and God Bless.
2007-05-08 06:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call a crisis center immediately. Or someone in his family. It is VERY important that you do this, as he could truly be serious and be having suicidal thoughts that he could act on. Don't take him back for pity reasons because he is unstable. HOWEVER, you need to make sure he gets the help he needs in due time. Call a family member immediately or a local crisis center. AND if you can't get a hold of someone that I just mentioned, and you REALLY think he is going to commit suicide, call the police. They will go over to his house and check out the situation.
2007-05-08 06:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty bad. I know you pitty him and feel sorry, but if you are not happy, thats what matters. You can not do much about his emotions/actions. You can talk to him, or suggest a therapist or something, but I would get out while you can, it is not good to hear that and it wont be for you. You need to be happy, and I know you want him to be ok, but if he is that depressed, something is really wrong. Make the right decision for you. YOu need to move on for yourself. It hurts you seeing him like that but he will get over it, maybe come to his senses saying nobody is worth killin gthemselves over. I hope this helps! Good luck.
2007-05-08 06:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Marr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very best thing you can do for him is get him help, urgently. it is emotional blackmail to say to you he will kill himself if you wont come back. he needs help. don't wait,just tell someone he needs urgent assistance or he indeed might kill himself before he has a chance to learn there is more in life, and that he himself has to make the goals in life he wants to achieve.... go get him some help. (not yours)
2007-05-08 06:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing for you to do, except to stay away from this guy. If you want to call his parents and tell them how he's been acting, that's up to you. Otherwise, let this guy go and get on with your life. His problems are much too serious for you to handle.
2007-05-08 06:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get into therapy and you'll support him throughout the whole process. you can also call an emergency number for him to talk to an on-call therapist or something like that. it should really help him. for you, you need to stay out of this relationship because he's not stable enough and you can't be stable enough for the both of you. this isnt a healthy relationship for you to be in. it'll tear you up if you stay in it.
2007-05-08 06:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by babyspice200267156 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has serious mental health issues and he needs help. This is not your fault. All you can do is encourage him to get help and perhaps talk to his parents. You need to leave him because this is only going to bring you down. Let him down easy and move on. He cant live his life for you, he must live for himself. Best wishes.
2007-05-08 06:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by hollygolightly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact his parents or police and you not responsiable for his life and death... so He does that because make you feel like oh BEEP! so do not let him do that and If things do not work out both of you then you are right to get out.. and he threatening to kill himself and you need to contact his parents, school, police.. that allyou can go for... I remember telling my ex girlfriends that I will kill myself and make them feel like damn i have to stay with him.. ya know I learn that It not good idea for me to say that.. Now days you can contact any of the list I gave you...
You have your own life and don't let him control yoru life because he upset that you broken up with him... you be glad you did call smiling.. same time look after yourself he might not only killing himself but to you and then himself ya know.. let the police know asap... for your safety and his.
2007-05-08 06:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't responsible for his behavior, but if he's a threat to himself, have him committed. Seriously. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated by his threats of harm, but also report his actions and words at the very least, so he can get some help.
He's in need of therapy apparently...anyone who allows themselves to become that attached to someone, has a problem.
2007-05-08 06:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋