Its Ok To Cheat?

Question

Why don't people realize that when you're "just dating" or "in a relationship" that someone who likes your partner is likely to pursue them because you're not married.

I don't understand why some women get so mad when they're boyfriends cheat. Obviously they don't like you so move on. Dating is just dating. Unless you're married and then the person cheats I don't see what the big deal is.

Answer 1

Well people still cheat after marriage. I see your point though, but I'm just telling you that when you're dating the person seems perfect, but usually that fades away and they turn into someone you hate. That's how you know when to move on.

It's never ok to cheat, but at least when you're not married its easier to get on with your life.

Answer 2

People have different definitions about "dating" and "boyfriends" and "relationships."
Most people see "dating" as the initial stage, before any commitment is made. You're still getting to know each other, and it can end at any time. It's generally okay to date other people during this stage - each man is "the guy I'm dating", not a "boyfriend."

However, after a while (anywhere from a few weeks to many months), an agreement is made to move to a more committed relationship, and therefore the couple becomes monogamous. They agree to not date other people and just focus on each other. This is when the titles of "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" are applicable. Most people consider these relationships almost as sacred as marriage - you gave your word to be monogamous, and therefore to go back on that word is dishonorable, it's cheating both yourself and your partner of what a real relationship could be. Anyone who attempts to break up this relationship for their own gain should realize that, if successful, the person they've gained is a liar and a traitor, and may repeat history by lying to and cheating on them.

It's really not very different from breaking up a marriage. A marriage is a formal, legal, religious commitment, but the strength of the relationship is established long before that.

Even if YOU don't see the importance of monogamy, many other people do, and you should respect that and not cause harm to their relationships (which obviously mean far more to them than they do to you).

Answer 3

lol Jason F. You should definitely give him the 10 points lol.

Now to the matter at hand. The big deal is cheating hurts especially if the one who's being cheated on really loves the cheater and has committed to that person. Cheaters just see it as having sex with someone else but it's more to it than that. Cheating has alot to do with greed and curiosity. Ppl wanna know what it would be like and if it feels better than what they currently have so they act on that curiosity. Some men genuinely don't care and that's a fact but it's usually those men who have the good women and when they lose them, regret it later.

If you get married knowing full well you're going to cheat, then it makes no sense. When you're single and cheat, it makes no sense either cause you're just subjecting you're body to diseases (condoms or no condoms) and you're wasting time cause you're not going to settle down with that person anyway. Think of it this way, if cheating was a good thing then it wouldn't be such an issue

Answer 4

I think the answer is, "It depends." If there is commitment of any kind, like a promise to only date each other (to learn if we can resist temptation), then dating another would be cheating. Maybe not as serious as when a married person cheats, but it's still cheating.

As a general rule, I would say that when a couple is engaged that there should be no cheating. However, if a couple makes any kind of commitment, then cheating means "move on."

Answer 5

it is the expectations and hopes that get crushed. you may say; move on, but not everyone sees this coming. and if you don't moving on is not that easy. I think it would be more honest if the boyfriend broke off the existing relationship before going with another. that would be proper and polite. there is no need to cheat if everybody is prepared to say it: I want to break off our relationship... painful or not, it is the most honest and open way... then they are free to go with whoever they want to... so why should cheating not be condemned? I am talking about the "behind the back" cheating. If someone tells you from the beginning that he will be having fun with others too, then your expectations and hopes are different too... see the difference? :)

Answer 6

I totally agree with you, why put such stress on a relationship that is more or less trial and error anyway. Oh, sweetie, I hate to tell you this but marriage ends up being the same way. If you look at the national statistics for cheating among married couples, and the divorce rate, you will be astonished. P

Answer 7

The big deal is that exclusive dating relationships are supposed to be exclusive. Part of an exclusive dating relationship is being faithful to your partner, whether married or not.

And I disagree that, when you're "just dating" and a guy dates someone else, that means that they don't like you... it means that they're not sure you're the only one, and the relationship hasn't reached the exclusivity level.

Answer 8

okay then if you're going to cheat and dont like your partner then why the hell would you be in a relationship with them?!!! We get mad because whether we are married or not, you made a committment and you broke it so just dont f-ing ask us to be your girlfriend!!!! And I have a question for you. How the hell would a person ever get married in the first place if their partner cheats on them??/??

Answer 9

LMAO jason's answer!!!! That was so funny!

You know...trying to convince yourself that cheating is ok kinda shows me that you might have mental/self esteem issues. You dont care if somebody disrespects you? As a "independent black woman", i would expect you not to take crap from anyone. So you think its ok that your man plays you behind your back every night and makes YOU look like the fool...?
You've got it all wrong. The joke is on YOU. You may go ahead and say this to every guy you meet to try and find a new boyfriend who will think "hey this chick is AWESOME, i dont have to make a commitment and i can STILL get laid by other hos!". Well too bad hun, cuz they know its an act you are trying to portray. Good for you, round of applause, GO HOME.

Answer 10

Perhaps you will see what the big deal is when it happens to you. When you choose to date someone you have committed to them, unless you specify that you will be dating other people. Do you not get that even while dating you can get an STD. How old are you? When someone wants your man or woman..they dont care if your married or not.