How should I tell guest we would like money for a gift?

Question

Me and may husband to be do not want to do a wedding registry because we have everything that we need. Should I let our guest find out by word of mouth that we would like a money gift or should I word it some how on the invite?

Please Help! Thank You everyone

Thank you everyone for your help. For the people that said people don't get married for the gift need to read my question again. First, I am not getting married for gifts. Everyone else thanks for the helpful comments. I will just let my guest by word of mouth that IF THEY WANT TO GIVE US GIFTS THEY CAN GIVE MONEY

Answer 1

On the invitation you put "Presentation" that means monetary value gift please. most people will give the gift of their dinner and what they drink. I do hope you have an open bar at your wedding. That is usually the only time a monetary gift is asked for..... otherwise people find it tackey to have to give a monetary gift as well as pay for their drinks at a wedding.

BTW... CONGRATULATIONS

Answer 2

DO NOT INCLUDE IT ON THE INVITATION! That is absolutely the worst thing you could do. First of all it's tacky, and second of all it comes across as you expecting gifts. Yes, guests SHOULD do something for you, but your wedding is NOT about gifts and money. SOoooo many people ask this same question over and over again, and it seems like a lot of couples have forgotten why they're getting married.

Don't register anywhere.
Tell your parents/bridal party that you would grately appreciate money to help out with a larger purchase or your nest egg fund, and let them spread it for you.

Or register somewhere like Kohls, so you can return things and get gift cards.

Answer 3

You cannot include that in an invitation. You can let people who ask you know your preference. Guests are giving you a gift, you don't get to decide what that gift will be. some guests will never give cash.

You don't have to have a registry either, but it will help steer guests in the right direction. And if you know where things came from they are easier to return for cash.

Answer 4

I am surprised how often this gets asked - and you were right with the first one: Word Of Mouth.

A wedding invitation should never imply that a gift is required or expected - you are inviting them to celebrate with you, not to pay your bills. While most guests will bring a gift anyway - including any information about gift giving in the invitation implies that you expect a gift and that is considered very rude.

Answer 5

Traditionally asking for money is taboo but...... maybe try this on a separate little card: "Since John & Sally are merging lives and belongings, they have 2 of everything. They would be honored if you could help contribute to helping to .........(buy their first home together, or sending them on the best honeymoon ever, or.....) buy adorning a money tree. You will be given a keepsake to remember how much we appreciate your love and support." Then either send them a picture of you two with whatever is was you used the money for, or have an engagement picture with a sentiment on it for them to take when they come to the wedding.
Personally, money is a much easier gift to give than shopping for a gift especially if I know it's going to something specific. I think if it is worded respectfully or with humor than it should go over pretty well! Best wishes!!

Answer 6

Typically you are not suppose to include where you are registered in your actual invitations. Information about where you are register or what you expect to recieve is usually included in the bridal shower invite. Everything else is word of mouth i guess. To me asking for money in your invite is a little forward. Most people tend to give money at the wedding as a gift anyway.

Answer 7

you could let them find out by word of mouth however that would put your guests in an awkward position. instead i would think of what you need the money for and add those things to your guest registry.there are many things that makes gifts better than money.for one,money disappears. the gifts will be a reminder of your friendships.it is in poor taste in my opinion to put your guests,who may not have much money themselves, in a position where they have to wonder if their monetary gift is too cheap etc.

Answer 8

Gifts and or registries should never be mentioned on the wedding invitation. They should only be mentioned on the shower invitation and or word of mouth. Plant the seed in a big mouthed bridesmaid or groomsman.

Answer 9

Holy smoke! Is a gift the only reason why you invite someone to your wedding?

OK look. it's really bad manners to tell someone what you want them to give you.

It's even worse manners to invite someone to celebrate your wedding on the basis of an anticipated gift.

And it's the height of bad manners to let the news that you would prefer money to a gift slip by word of mouth.

There is no excuse for bad manners - not even a bride can get away with bad manners.

Answer 10

We were married in our 50's and felt we had enough stuff for two households and simply wrote on the invitation that gifts were optional, but that monetary gifts would be used to purchase a rug for our living-room that would serve to remind us always of this beautiful day!

Answer 11

In no way is it appropriate to put gift preferences of any kind in your wedding invitations. You can always register for your honeymoon. People can purchase gift certificates for you that you can use for the hotel, meals, and even activities.

This way when you are writing your thank you notes you can tell them how much you enjoyed the dinner or scuba diving their gift contributed to.