would you continue seeing him/her?
2007-05-08 06:18:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That really depends on what he did and why he did it. Rape, murder, and other violence for self gain should send you away running. However it is possible in certain cases to do the right thing and break a law. Such as shoot an intruder who breaks into your home only to find you broke some gun law and would go to jail as a result. Protecting those you are responsible for is the highest honor. Cases like this are not common but are not as rare as one would think. A term in jail is a definite cause for concern, but not an automatic deal breaker. jason
2007-05-08 08:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Magic Mouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a complex question. Of course it would depend on what they did to be put away. Some things I couldn't live with...like child molestation but some convictions are really silly and are nothing more than a burden on society and taxpayers. In addition, it is possible for ppl to redirect their lives. Just because he/she made a mistake doesn't mean that they continue the bad lifestyle. If this person had directly LIED to me about it and I had to find out from another source, then I might reconsider the relationship. Over all, I think you need to have ALL the facts before you make a decision.
2007-05-08 13:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did s/he conceal that s/he had been convicted before? apparently this person is not open to you. What else is this person hidding? A true relationship involves openness, if you are not open to each other problems will arise.
Ofcourse the nature\seriousness of the offence convicted of will influence your decision whether to continue or quit. But you should remember that people do make mistakes....no body is perfect...
Before you decide whether to continue with the relationship i would advise that you first ask him\her why did s/he not disclose such a serious fact. If you receive a satisfactory answer then i see no reason why you should quit!!! just continue with the relationship....that is if you still love the person.
2007-05-08 13:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sibusiso KBSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its a very sensitive situation, if you cant live with out some one. I would first suggest that you gain more confidence in your self to know that you don't need this man/woman to be happy, now I don't think that you need to leave this person just because he/she is an ex-convict. Sometimes stuff happens but this person need to be honest about what he/she did wrong and they need to tell you. If any thing this person does crosses the line then i would leave them but only you can decide, and you will know whether or not they have crossed the line, don't worry about it to much and trust in your self.
2007-05-08 13:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what he or she did, and if he or she regrets what he or she did and made amends to the other person. If they sincerely try to change and never let it happened again, then you should give it a chance. If you really love this person like you say you do, then you should love him/her unconditionally. However, if this person never regretted, never changed, then you probably might want to start thinking about leaving him/her. Doesnt mean you cant still love this person, but you cannot stay with someone who doesnt know right from wrong.
2007-05-08 13:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go with your heart and I think it would depend on the crime, now murder, personally I couldn't deal with that, but to each is their own, you know them and a different side of them so you have to make your own judgement, but I wouldn't judge someone based on their criminal past base it on what they are doing with their life now and where they want it to go.
2007-05-08 13:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes unless he was convicted of murder or something really, really bad
2007-05-08 13:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not.
I lived before I met them, I will continue to live after I've met them.
2007-05-08 14:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. Mostly it depends on the nature of the crime and how long ago it was commited.
2007-05-08 13:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Christine H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he were a murderer, no. otherwise, yes. If I think it likely that I will find myself in bodily harms way, then I would definitely not pursue and stay. Otherwise, I think all and everything can be discussed and solved to mutual satisfaction... :)
2007-05-08 13:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋