Well here I sit waiting for my boyfriend to call ,he is suppose to pick me up and pay my rent.He is always screwing me over...WHY...Pleas no smart remarks....
2007-05-08 05:46:24 · 58 answers · asked by shy_smileyfun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHY? Because apparently you allow it since he's done it before (hence your use of "again").
Perhaps it's time you got some independence and left Mr.Unreliable behind.
2007-05-08 05:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Like the others have said, hes done it again, because you let him, and it will continue as long as you let him. You need to find yourself another man. A man that is responsible enough to pay the rent (im not sure how you guys have it worked out) but can you imagine if the both of you were to get married and have children? It would be kaos!!! If hes stood you up once twice,..........it's more than likely that until you put a STOP to it, you're either gonna make him realize that hes wrong or you're gonna make him leave. Besides that you shouldnt ever depend on anyone, get yourself a job make your own money, pay for your own stuff. Can you imagine having to sit by the phone waiting for your boyfriend to call so he can take you out to eat??? You better prepare to starve to death!!! (Not making fun of you) Just telling you how it is. If I was you I would talk to him first if the converstaion doesnt go anywhere dont say anything, it wouldne be worth wasting more of your words,breath, and time. Just leave or change your #'s and move on. Hope my advice helps and good luck to you! God Bless!!
2007-05-08 06:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Juliet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question shouldnt be why ur boyfriend is screwing u over...again...it should be why u havent gotten to a place where u can be independent and take care of ur own **** that way u wont have to deal with the crap he gives. Consider this some unsolicited advice but no one likes weak people. It is in human nature to take advantage of other if u can...if u go about things in a way that has him knowing u dont need him for anything other than love & support & not in a financial way he'll wise up but if all u do is take and need and wait ull never be foremost in his mind.
2007-05-08 06:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jah Girlee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing this continuously then perhaps it is time to rethink this relationship.
You should be independent of him and able to stand on your own two feet.
You should be living in a place that you can afford to pay for yourself and not relying on him.
It is time to stand up and make a change in your life and the path you are on.
You should be working full time and paying your way,
If you have no education then it is time to go back to school. There are lots of programs out there to assist you will you get a diploma or trade...
You must learn to be self reliant and proud of accomplishing things for yourself...
He was maybe a meal ticket or whatever, but things must change now and you need to be realistic about your living arrangements and what a boyfriend does for his girlfriend... he should not be paying your bills.. you should..
If you have any self pride, step up to the plate and get started on your new path.....
2007-05-08 05:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to pay your own rent, or get someone whom you can trust for their share of the rent. Get the basics taken care of. Then worry or address this "boyfriend" and where his priorities are. Aren't you somewhat happy it is you, and not a houseful of his screaming children also waiting home for him? Is his picture becoming clearer, or does it go month by month with him. You asked for no smart remarks, so find a new partner and a new reference to things you enjoy so much with boys.
2007-05-08 05:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men there something else now. He is not going to do right it's time to move on. Don't try to keep someone that doesn't want to be kept. Free ur self. I am sure there is someone nice out there for u. He will keep on screwing u in more ways then 1 if u keep letting him. Drop that Zero and find u a a Hero.
2007-05-08 05:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from an older woman, men (or women) will only do what you allow them to do to you. I don't know the reason you are waiting for him to pay your rent or pick you up, you know your situation, but think about repositioning yourself and gaining a little more independance...he does it because he knows you will be there waiting for him. Stop waiting and start doing a little more for yourself, you won't be sorry in the long run.
2007-05-08 05:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Rhoda J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he knows the only way he'll get you to shut up is to say "Ill do it" .........you need to punish him ....like you would a dog, men are like dogs u train them lol. Like for every fck up he does, say no fking sex or watever you do that makes him happy lol............like for example if you give kids candy and they screw up just HIDE the candy. So pretend he's a kid and ur the candy. I hope u get the idea. Take his TREATS away lol.
:wink wink:
or like every1 else said bring the situation to him and let him go if you feel you must follow your heart not your brain. Try to make a theraputic list of the stuff he does GOOD and the stuff he does BAD. See which one over powers the other. Then make ur desicion.
2007-05-08 05:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either inconsiderate and doesn't realize or care that you stress over this, or he is a passive-aggressive *sshole who likes knowing that he has you over a barrel waiting for him.
Talk to him. Tell him what you expect from him and what you will no longer tolerate, and stick to it. Sometimes, the people we're with don't realize they are crossing boundaries because they've never been told what those boundaries are.
Good luck.
2007-05-08 05:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Moxie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like kinda a loser. Why not just dump him and make a life for yourself?
You have the power to make things happen, don't stick around for the abuse.
A real man doesn't pay your rent for you and then bang you and leave, he would be willing to swim through shark- infested waters to bring you a lemonade.
2007-05-08 05:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by thehouse3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you allow it by getting into a situation you cant leave him you obvious need him cause his paying your rent , which means he supports you. Real stuck in this one. Talk to family and friends see if you can move in with them and if they'll help you get back on your feet. If they will and thats what they're for, to help in time of need, then talk it out with him he may be acting so worthless cause his tired of holding you up so much and paying all your crap like rent....
2007-05-08 05:59:00 · answer #11 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋