Can't seem to find a reward system that does not seem to cause havoc with the other child that is already potty trained. All advice welcome. Thanks
2007-05-08 05:35:55 · 12 answers · asked by DaddyO 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
At my house, we had a reward basket that I kept in the bathroom. I filled it with little things from the dollar store that I thought they would like, and sometimes I would put some candy or fruit snacks in there too. When they did something well, they could pick one thing from the basket. I used it when the younger one would go potty, and for the older one, we used it for anything else he did well in the bathroom (brushing his teeth, washing hands after using bathroom, hanging up his towel, etc.) This encourages good bathroom habits, not just using the potty, but also in other things too.
2007-05-08 05:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the older children involved in the reward system. Try doing stickers and have the older children stick them up in the younger child's chart. When you fill up a week, two weeks, a month, then the child being potty trained should get a reward and the older children can get something for helping. But I would strongly recommend you discuss that the child being potty trained needs to be rewarded so that they are encouraged to go. If they throw a fit or act bad you should discipline them for that. It is showing they are being spoiled. What do you do at birthday parties when one kid is getting presents and the other aren't? Kids need to be taught that they are not always to be the center of attention but others have special days too.
2007-05-08 15:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by MD4Christ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, life isn't always equal. Tell the older sibling that when he/she was potty training, he/she got these rewards. Enlist the older's help to teach the younger and let the older suffer a little. Its okay for your younger child to be rewarded for working hard to learn on the potty. Find other things your older child can do to earn rewards but don't negate the younger child's successes because the older child is being bratty. I have a 4-yr-old boy who just finished potty-training and a 2-yr-old just starting and when my older son starts fussing because the younger boy gets praise or a reward for success then he (the older) is sent away and I talk with him later. It was a big deal when Aidan (the older) would pee in the potty and its a big deal when Ronan (the younger) does. If Aidan wants to join us and celebrate his brother's achievement, great! If not, he needs to leave us to celebrate without him. Good luck.
P.S. Giving the older a reward when the younger succeeds may encourage him to help his younger sibling learn too.
2007-05-08 12:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reward shouldn't be big enough to make the sibling feel cheated. Maybe a couple of gummy bears or sweedish fish or something along those lines. Toys? forget it.
The kids that get upset won't understand that life isn't always equal either, so make the reward small and the chances of an upset sibling are less.
Make the older one go first, reward with the same reward, then let the little one go. Kinda like reverse peer pressure.
2007-05-08 13:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by J G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does depend on their ages. If the sibling is older, than perhaps suggest that as a big sis/brother, he could earn a reward through other chores, such as helping his younger sibling going potty or by helping around the house. If the sibling is younger, than it might be easier to give the potty training reward when the younger sibling is not nearby.
2007-05-08 12:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the other child? Maybe you can come up with a reward system for the other child too... maybe for helping with chores or something. Depends on the age.
2007-05-08 12:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by zeus112999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the, 2 stop complaing and if they dont tell themif they were diapers for a week and then go potty they can get rewarded too.
2007-05-08 17:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rewarded mine with big girl or boy underpants and made a big show of appreciation for a job well done.
2007-05-08 13:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that that was a very good thing and you are very proud of them. You can also tell the other child wether older or younger that they do things that make you proud of them too!
2007-05-08 13:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother had 9 kids so i know all about sibling rivalry... for my younger brother she used MC Donald's we all got something out of that and all supported him...mom said if Spencer went on the potty 10 time we could all go to MC D's so every one kept asking him "do you need to go potty?" ans when he did we all were proud...we all got to eat out or play on he play scape...so for his good job and our encouragement we got to go to MC D's
2007-05-08 12:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋