Can have children biologically but risky.?

Question

Okay I was wondering how to tell someone you can have children physically but shouldn't because it would be risky?

I know guys that's a HUGE turn off for guys but there is nothing that can be done to go around it.

Any suggestions as to when you should tell someone that because you don't want to scare them off but you don't want to say to late.

Answer 1

I can't have children at all (tons of medical reasons I won't go into here). What I ended up doing was joining a local social club of ChildFree people and found my boyfriend that way. Not being able to bear children will scare off most men, but will have the ChildFree ones running to you in droves.

If that's not an option, I was just always honest about it right from the start. Having children (or not) is such a huge deal-breaker for most people its better to get that out in the open right away so that if the guy really does want kids and isn't open to the idea of adoption, that you don't waste time getting to know and care about them. Hold out until you meet someone who can understand and care about you no matter what.

Answer 2

It will come up when it is time. Usually, as a couple starts to get serious about each other and are thinking about marriage, the topic of kids will come up. If it really bothers you, then the physcal nature of the issue can be brought up when it seems logical or natural. Guys don't look as far into the future as early as gals do so relax and let it happen. It would be wise to discuss a lot of things before you get to the "I dos" including children, but you don't need to pull out a checklist on the third date.

Answer 3

Dear Annie,

You don't have to say a WORD about it until you are in a relationship that is clearly headed towards marriage. And not a moment before then. It's not misleading to not mention it.