Why are they so stuck up?

Question

Guys rarely reject women. They never act like they are to pretty to even speak to a female. Women on the other hand, mainly the pretty ones, act is if they are so pretty or so all that they can't even speak to a guy. Just a simple hi how are you today. That would make a guy like me feel really good to be noticed and shows me her personality as a friendly person. I have women at my job who does this everyday at work. I am a blue collar worker. These ladies on my job are in the professional department (office workers, secretaries, administrative staff). These ladies will see other people mosty other females or other people they know and like to speak to. They will walk directly pass me and say nothing but will speak to the other people. They don't know me like that to be acting this way. I have never done anything wrong ever to them to make them act this way. I'm a quiet dude who just comes to work and do my job. I don't bother anyone or cause trouble. Why do I always get ignored?

Answer 1

Why would you want to talk to someone who acts that way? Just make friends with the real people you meet. You're probably lucky that they ignore you.

Answer 2

I have always been shy and quiet and some people instead thought I was being stuck up because I would not talk to them. Instead, I always had very low self esteem and just felt like people didn't want to talk to me.

I once worked in the office at a printing facility. It was a similar environment to the one you are talking about. The press operators and stockers (all mostly male) would work in the press room and the office was separated and primarily female. When I had to take jobs to the press floor, I was very intimidated because some of the guys would do the cat call stuff...which is very uncomfortable for a shy person like me. I don't like to draw attention to myself. So I would ignore that and perhaps become a bit angry. But there would be some guys who would say, "Hey how are you?" and I would always respond politely. However, I usually walked with my head down because I am too shy to initiate conversation and I felt uncomfortable in a big room full of men...especially with some of them cat calling.

If someone is being stuck up, then that is wrong since everyone works for the same company. I'm not sure what kind of company you work for, but maybe some women may feel intimidated. If I were you, I would continue to say hi to these women in a polite and respectful way. If they do not respond or even acknowledge you, then that is their problem and I wouldn't bother to waste a breath.

Answer 3

I don't know if I'm one of the "pretty ones," but I can tell you that I don't regularly speak to people at work - even people I know - but it's mainly because I'm shy. If speaks to me first, then I'm more inclined to speak to them, and even say "hi" first the next time I see them. I'm probably perceived as being stuck up, but that's not the case at all. I like to be included as much as anybody, but I also don't want to be considered a butt-in-ski by jumping into someone else's conversation a few desks over. I think heeps of people are shy about saying "hi" to people that they don't know. Breaking the ice is the hardest part.

Answer 4

It's work, not play. This isn't a time for you to be "scoring".
A simply "hi" is all that is needed and i am sure "they" are giving you that. My ex husband is single and he does not mingle... on the job with the ladies.
There is a difference between business and pleasure.
Look, i wouldn't take this personally, but i am sure since you are of the opposite sex and this is a "professional" setting you are obviously going to be treated "differently".
Please, "deal" and stop acting like this is a "stuck up" issue because it isn't.
Also, guys in the workplace DO "reject" women. I am not sure where you work.

Answer 5

Women are ugly in the working environment. They gossip, tell rumors, make up stories, exaggerate on different issues etc. You shouldn't feel left out. Just feel happy and proud that you are not a part of their every day Bull ####. If you feel bad that they don't say hi to you when they walk by, then just be the one to say hi first. Just do your job to the best of your ability and you should be fine.

Answer 6

Some girls are shy until they get to know you. The fact that you are quiet probably makes it hard to get to know you. I am one of the quiet ones that is reserved until I think you'll be around for a while then I'll talk to you like we're old friends. Make the effort speak to the ladies as if you are genuinely interested in their day.

Answer 7

Maybe you are putting these women on a pedestal. Since you mentioned that you are shy, I can only assume that you have not attempted to say "hello" to them. It's not one-sided you know, I bet if you said hello to them they would respond in kind. Try it out, a lot of people respond well to acts of friendliness.

Answer 8

ur probably getting ignored because ur a quiet dude and people just don't notice you. ur a wallflower type and people just think that u don't want to be bothered. if u want to do something say hi to them they'll say hi back, strike up a conversation. then u won't have this problem anymore. and

Answer 9

some people are under the false pretense that speaking to someone who is not above them will somehow ruin their reputation as a professional. it's their loss. don't even bother with them. these women are not people you would want to associate with anyway.

Answer 10

I have never acted like that and I have been told I am beautiful. I am sorry that they treat you like this but don't believe it is all pretty women. We are all different.

BTW, I am the boss, the CEO and I talk to everyone.