My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 4months now and we are both committed and I would say its pretty serious. The problem I have is that he is a flirt and sometimes he would have his email open and I would see that he is emailing girls on old singles sites he used to be in (oris still in) and he also talks to random girls on myspace and what not. It sucks and I don't really want to confront him cuz I don't want him to know that I snooped. I've asked him if he would tell people he had a girlfriend if asked and of course he said yes, but I have my doubts. I'm somewhat of an insecure person and I know it- this just adds to it. What should I do and do you think that he will realize as our relationship gets more serious that he no longer needs the excess attention? Or will this be a thing that lingers all the time? I know that he loves attention though. Ugh.
2007-05-08 05:14:30 · 12 answers · asked by gali8285 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's like me, he just flirts for fun but has no intention of following through.
If you wanna make sure, make a fake account on one of those dating sites, and start talking to him on it.
2007-05-08 05:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by kenny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people are naturally flirtatious. And YOU can't stop your boyfriend from being one. There is nothing wrong with flirting. Obviously you have never had any trust in this guy otherwise you wouldn't feel complled to snoop into his private online accounts. I doubt very much if this so called relationship is going to go any farther that it is because of your insecurities, immaturity and mistrust.
2007-05-08 12:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't really something that you can stop without looking like a jealous girlfriend, and honestly, acting like that so early in the relationship could cause you to lose him. Men like women with confidence. If he didn't love you, he wouldn't be with you. If he hangs onto this behavior for months down the road, then you will have to decide when the right time to confront him is.
2007-05-08 12:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by flowerbug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have snooped and he shouldn't have left his email open either.
it isn't nice of him to be flirting when you say that you're in a committed relationship.
some guys just like to flirt, some flirting is harmless and some is going too far. if he does it around you then tell him that it upsets you and makes you uncomfortable. Maybe he will stop. Why don't you try flirting with him, you can still do that and be in a relationship, I flirt with my husband all the time.
Good Luck!
2007-05-08 12:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by Justina P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's going to stop. There is absolutely no reason for him to be chatting up girls on singles sites. Your relationship is still pretty new and if he's doing it now, what do you think he'll be doing a year from now when things are more comfortable. I would confront him or dump him, because I really don't think it will stop on it's own.
2007-05-08 12:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Britches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
You say you're an insecure person. Why the hell would you get into a relationship knowing that about yourself. Don't get with another guy until you seek help for this. As a guy, I'm telling you, insecurity is NOT sexy! Next thing, you'll hack his emails and such. Or he should leave you.
2007-05-08 12:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
im a guy, and i had that same exact problem, except we went out for 2 years...yea..it didnt stop, i tried to stop it, but we just got into arguements, either you live with it, or break it off cause it wont stop. she never once told a guy she just met, or people she worked with that i was her boyfriend. soon enough, you will not be trusting him, asking yourself whose he talking to, and what not...sorry if this isnt what you wanted to hear.
2007-05-08 12:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Men are men and they are who they are. Either accept him the way he is or leave him alone!
You are not MARRIED and therefore not committed to just each other.
2007-05-08 12:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant it is only human nature and guys love to flirt
2007-05-08 12:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how it bothers you, and tell him if he really loved you, he will stop , if not, hit the road
2007-05-08 12:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋