My ex is back in touch. We originally went out for a few months but I broke up with him because he wouldn't commit and I felt he was stringing me along. Now he wants to see me again but I know we'll just end up in bed. I'm sorely tempted as I've been celibate for 6 months and am feeling quite frisky ;-) On the other hand, it's unlikely he's changed and I might get hurt again. There's immense sexual attraction and maybe this time he might act differently. What should I do?
2007-05-08 04:48:13 · 42 answers · asked by Daisy Chain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At the sake of sounding like a prude, there IS NO SEX without strings attached. It's as simple as that. I understand that after 6 months, you wanna get some action, and oh do I understand chemistry! but in your heart you know that after all the orgasms, you'll be left in doubt, empty. Hurt.
If you want to give him a chance, then hold back from shagging (we all know it's hard! we're human after all) and see how he behaves and what he says. Don't be afraid to ask him directly what he wants from you...maybe he'll be decent enough to say 'hey, I just want to ...'
It's just that when you exercise the strength to walk away from 'bad' relationships, it's so much more empowering than having to pick up the pieces afterwards - not to mention, less painful and time-consuming.
But good luck with your decision - hope things work out for ya.
2007-05-08 05:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Snake Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going backwards is never a good idea in my book but on the other hand - the sexual attraction will never go away.
accept that he may not have changed and dont look for committment or anything else.
after u have been with someone i dont think it is a matter of giving in when both parties are interested.
however there is a reason u have been celibate for 6 months. instead of going backwards, concentrate on that
2007-05-08 04:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by miss lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE do not do this! You are only going to end up hurting again most likely. Having sex with him would almost certainly bring emotions and feelings for you, because that is how sex for women is most of the time. I know from personal experience how a situation like that will end up. Except for me, I actually didn't have sex even though that is what he wanted, and since I did not do it, he never spoke to me again. But now I see that was for the best, haha! Anyway, he probably just wants to use you for sex. Don't degrade yourself like that, you deserve better.
2007-05-08 04:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go ahead and sleep with him. He may have realized some of what has gone wrong.People actually learn from their mistakes, plus you are quite "frisky". At least it would be with someone you know veruses a total stranger which you don't know where they've been. You are attracted to him so i'd say go for it. You don't have anything tieing you down so, do it.
2007-05-08 04:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't count on him changing, but there is no reason that 2 consenting adults can't have wild sex without a committment. Just know ahead of time that he is probably not relationship material. I broke up with someone many, many yrs ago because he cheated on me, but I had sex several times with him after the breakup. He was a great sexual partner, but I knew that was it.
2007-05-08 04:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. I mean you can give him a second chance but it sounds like you already know what is going to happen so dont do it. You are a smart girl and sorely tempted can get you intouble. There are tons of other great guys out there, I know that there is a great guy out there for you.
Hope this helps : )
2007-05-08 04:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by sydney bristow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't commit, chances are he won't again. Don't sleep with him. If you broke up 6 months ago, I'm sure you'd thought about it and had good reasons to do so. Trust the person you were 6 months ago -- let your head think, not your hormones.
2007-05-08 04:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should sleep with him!!! Bonus Day sex is the best sex. You know his spots, he knows yours. Technically, the number of partners you've been with doesn't go up. It's great and the sex must have been good, otherwise you wouldn't be tempted. BUT you shouldn't have sex with him if you expect that it means that he's come around and is now willing to commit. If you go expecting that, you could be setting yourself up for disappointment.
2007-05-08 04:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by Yamaoha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
False hope... and you will end up getting hurt. Come across these types of guys before. Stay well away and get over it... dont set yourself up for a fall. There are plenty of decent guys out there (Mmmm well so I am told still looking lol), find one that will treat you with respect and not an object... and remember its his lose.... you can do better..... he probably cant!
2007-05-08 04:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Maria S © 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him back, then don't have sex with him. Let him take you out and treat you like a lady. After a few weeks, if he's still into you, I'd say it would be okay. Heck, you've waited this long to have sex, what's another few weeks?
2007-05-08 04:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by aquestforaheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋