My husband and I have been married for almost a year now. Almost 2 years ago he picked out the most beautiful engagement band and wedding ring. I absoultly love it and especially love it cause I dont know anyone else who has anything like it. I just found out from my grandmother today that yesterday my grandmother my younger sister and her fiancee went ring shopping. My sister got the same ring as me but in gold. I am furious...I cant believe she did that and my grandmother allowed it. They could have at least called and asked me if I would mind...it was my special ring...and now im supposed to be all suprised and excited when my sister shows her new ring off to our family on mothers day when all I want to do it cry. Am I being selfish?
2007-05-08 04:43:03 · 29 answers · asked by ***Luvin being a mommy*** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you for everyones opinion...I do not appreciate the ones telling me to grow up. I asked for an opinion not a lecture...so grow up people..and yes my sister did know how much the ring meant to me and yes she was thinking of me when she bought the ring cause she told my grandmother " i dont think she'll care"
2007-05-08 05:05:50 · update #1
Sounds complicated. They really should have told u what they were doing. Unfortunetly they cant do that now, you should tell your sis how u feel but bear in mind that she admires your ring and she probably didnt mean to hurt your feelings.
2007-05-08 05:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little bit, but that's okay. Your ring means a lot to you and you thought it was unique. But try to look at it this way,your sister loved your ring so much she had to have one like it, it can be taken as a bit of a compliment. And remember your guy picked your's out especially for you on his own, putting his love into it. Your sister's guy needed help and had to rely on someone else's opinion to show his love.And you're right, your grandmother should have said something. But what's done is done. Be happy for your sister, but you can let her know you were disappointed that she has the same ring. Maybe she doesn't realize what it means to you.
2007-05-08 11:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by isa2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being selfish but you are placing too much importance on impermanence. It's not the ring that makes the love you share with your partner special, it's the meaning behind the ring. The ring is just a symbol...just like the marriage certificate. What should be important is the love you share with your man. Don't get upset over small things. Be happy for your sister.
2007-05-08 11:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up marriage is not about the ring, it is what is behind it. What is between you and your husband the love you share the ring is only suppose to be a symbol of that love not who gets what! You should be happy for your sister that she found someone that makes her happy. Also it's been a year since you got married they probably didn't even remember what ring you have.
2007-05-08 11:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES>>>>>>>>>> YOU ARE being selfish>
At least she didn't get the EXACT same ring.
You should be complimented that she thought you had such good taste. Or maybe she saw it liked it, and didn't at the time even REALIZE it was the same ring. Maybe she was caught up in the moment. I'm sure, while shopping for her rings, that YOU were the FARTHEST person from her mind.
AND, as far as Grandmother "allowing" it. It's ain't none of Granny's business...............
2007-05-08 11:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by DianA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should love your ring for what it stands for, which no one else can claim as their own except you. The ring is a symbol of love between you and your husband and not just an accessory. I don't think you're being selfish, but try to look at the bigger picture.
2007-05-08 11:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your sister did it out of spite. She must've really liked your ring and wanted to get one like yours but in gold. I think you are being a bit of child when it comes to that, however if your sister wanted to REALLY piss you off, she would've gotten the EXACT ring, with the same color.
Brothers and Sisters like to do the same things and buy the same things that make them happy. Just remember, she is happy and do not ruin anyone's mood because of your ego.
2007-05-08 11:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by David 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its a materialistiv thing. Its like a car or clothes or shoes. Do you think if I had a camry I would get pissed because so many people had them also, no because its a materialistic thing. Uhmm congradulations though, I am glad to hear you found the right man. As a side note, please dont tell your man you want a different ring because he will start to think you are a gold digger.
2007-05-08 11:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by chase.casey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being selfish, it's not like your ring means any less to you just because you sister has the same one. Grow up.
2007-05-08 12:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Twinkle♥Toes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is selfish to want it to be special for yourself. I can see where some would feel that it is petty, but I think I would feel the same way. You wouldn't want someone showing up to your wedding wearing a white gown, it is special for you. Same idea.
I think it shows a lack of imagination in your sister, her fiance and your grandma. They always say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. She wants what you have, although it may bother you, be the bigger person and let it go.
2007-05-08 11:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋