What's so great about sex, anyway?

Question

I see the commercials, I see the movies, I hear the hype...what makes sex so great? (This comes from the mouth of a virgin, yes, so please be gentle in response)

Answer 1

Uh, because it feels good.

Answer 2

When I was a virgin I thought exactly like Fitzgerald does. What I learned next was this:

When you feel "the emotions" (from this standpoint I can't say "love"), you converge to that person so much that you will fall in deep grief if the person does not feel the same for you, or you are in heaven if he even looks at you.

But imagine that he shares deep emotions for you too. (Usually this hapens after many dissapointments). Then, you are so much in heaven, you don't know what else to do, you feel as if that your body is too "tight" for your soul. You become hungry for his touch, more touch, everywhere, the kisses begin to mean something else then the previous "inocent" ones, and the next is dreaming you are in bed with him. You will find it strange, illogical, but miraclous, you will not be able to fight it, you desire it.
And when it happens, it is the culmination of all your emotions, and your body is included, a great unity between the body and the soul. Don't underestimate the power of the body un the emotions, it is not always bad.

There is another approach, esspecially if one is young and immature for body-soul reunion: Just to do it. Good or bad, gradually it becomes better. If nothing violently happens, it will be one of the best things that happens to you anytime you wish to, like eating sweets.

Answer 3

If you wait until you are in a committed relationship with someone you love, and who loves you, it is indescribably special. Wait, form the bond, let it naturally extend to all of you.

Anything less is just alley-catting around, endlessly seeking the elusive state of 'fulfillment' because sex for it's own sake is empty, and empty sex is self defeating. It may very well be what you WANT, but it isn't even close to what you truly NEED, which is why people resort to sleeping around, cheating, and the circus trick/movie stunts.

When it comes from the heart, there is nothing on this earth that can equal it.

Answer 4

Don't go by the commercial, movies, etc. Sex should come naturally when you're ready for it with the right person. It shouldn't be done as a casual thing. It will have a long lasting memory for you and you want to make the experience a special thing.

Answer 5

I would wait it is something special you could give your future husband. Yes, You asking that question gave it away your a virgin, that is totally awesome. I so wish I would have waited and I'm a guy, I would have loved to be able to give my wife that gift... so think before you act you will probably regret it later most do in some way. That is why most relationships aren't good they focus on instant physical gratification instead of a lifetime of mental peace of mind ya know what I meen? Good luck! Aspire to be something great....

Answer 6

Surely sex might be all about connection, transcendence, and oneness. But shouldn t it also be about bodies flailing and juices flowing? Shouldn t we hear about tongues and thighs, and buttons so tender even the mildest caress will send you reeling? I feel like all too often, when we talk about great sex (particularly sex educators and sex researchers ) the sex part gets sanitized. I think this is one of the things I m always hoping for in porn, representation of great sex that s completely messy

Answer 7

When you meet someone so special that you desire to share your body with him, you will understand. I agree with previous comments, the first few times, you might be kinda disappointed, but it will get better. When you love someone, it is WAY more than a physical connection, it is very emotional and spiritual. The true pleasure comes when both partners seek to please the other, not just themselves. That is why it is so important you wait until you are ready (some would say until marriage) to give that gift to someone.

Answer 8

Sex is connection between two people to show there feelings for one another. I would say what is great about it is the friction involved, touching, kissing, etc

I do partially agree with Donkey up above try stimulating yourself, its normal, it will give you an idea of what it feels like to be aroused. Good luck.

Answer 9

i am sixteen and honestly sex isnt the greatest thing all these people say it is until you are with somebody who has a little experience sex isnt the relationship or even a big part of the relationship all it is is a benefit and you sound young so wait a while so when you do it will be worth it

Answer 10

Im a virgin, too I have been told it is because it feels good, but I'm not sure. Most young girls you see that are pregnant is because the dudes think that condomns take the pleasure away so they choose not to use the protection (which is really stupid).

Answer 11

It's a wonderfully intimate experience. It makes people closer. It's very personal. Physically, if you're with the right person it feels awesome. Way better than masturbation. Your first time will be painful.