Does anyone else think that we're all not meant to be with just one person the rest of our lives?

Question

I feel Like relationships just don't last like they used to, it's like you can be with someone for 4-5 years ( which is a long time) and be madly in love then out the blue the couple breaks up, then there's couples who eventually cheat on one another or eventually get into arguments and break up. It's like in the beginning everything is sweet and couldn't be more perfect then as time goes on everything goes down Hill. I'm starting to feel like most of us if not all, aren't meant to be with just one person the rest of our lives I feel Like we all get different learning experiences and memories from different people that we date or marry and then we move on to the Next person eventually, it's like a endless cycle are they're others who agree or not?

Answer 1

I totally AGREE with you its true everyones always so madly in love with each other then eventually the magic wears off...then you hear all your friends say, "Oh you can do so much better" or you hear the classic "There's Other Fish in the Sea" so can there truly be love if in the end you end up breaking up...I don't think so because the people that usually last are the people that are afraid and to comfortable to move on.... Hey that's just my opinion...Good Luck maybe there is but we just haven't found it!

Answer 2

I agree that some people just aren't meant to be in a committed relationship at all, or not with one person. I think more often then not however, we don't choose the right person and it has become so 'routine' to give up on one another and move on. A lot of people in previous generations didn't have a 'perfect' relationship either but they honored the commitment.. People aren't willing to do that as much these days. Not just in relationships either, a lot of people are always looking for the bigger, better, next best thing to appease the insatiable appetite that our society has developed and it has become an endless cycle for many. The pursuit of more, more, more. But as many also find out the grass is not always greener on the other side. :)

Answer 3

Excellent question. You won't find anyone who has been married for 20 years who won't tell you that there have been plenty of times they wanted to walk away. The difference between couples that stay together and those who don't is a choice. Some couples choose to stay together and work through those "down" periods. I understand from a friend who has been married for 25 years that they go through cycles where things are great and cycles where things aren't so great.

Another thing that adds to this is that women today are more able to be financially independent. This means that less women have the push to work things out and are more likely to let the marriage fall apart. They don't necessarily have to be married to survive anymore. It is easier to walk away and start a new and more exciting relationship than to work through the problems in the one you have.

Great Questions!

Answer 4

Depends on our expetations... and our lifestyles in general. The feeling of falling in love and the romance are on a pedestal. I think it's due to the media and trends, you are supposed to feel high all the time and the applies to the relationships. Relationships aren't "good old" anymore, they've got to be hip and hype and hot and high. And with a new person you can reach that high again. Also we have more free time in our hands, more time to think of idle thoughts to make us want what we really don't need, while the generation of our parents were working, and then went home and that's that. They were happy with the simple life. Life is no longer simple so it's harder to want simple things with all the distractions going on. I guess the difficult circumstances are one reason why the age of lifelong relationships for the majority of people has ended.

Answer 5

well to an extend i think that you are right and I wont take that from you but some people even tho they are not happy the work on it and eventually they do become happy to some degree. yeah I kow that is not what it is supossed to be like but it happens that way. I wish we could all be happy with the one person that makes you the happiest but then again who knows if you make that person the happiest....mmmmm thoughts to ponder on

Answer 6

I think it is very hard to be with one person for life. I've been in one for 28 years and have had many unfulfilled desires. Sacrifice is the name of the game. there is nothing better than a long term relationship that both people work at. I think if you marry the one who makes your heart skip a beat, you have a better chance than most.

Answer 7

yes and no and the only reason I am saying is becauses most people theses day are not willing to work hard in the relationship, there is always one individual who works the hardest to keep the relationship alive and there are the slakers who go in a relationship thinking since there with someone they won t feel alone and that there selfesteem wll boost up and keep the relationship going, but not at all.

its just n one wants to work hard to keep the relationship going anymore just on arguement and people think that the relationship won t last anymore isn t that sad..

Answer 8

Disagree. I don't think it means you're not meant to be with one person. I think it means people have no concept of the word "committment," and they no longer have the same respect and dedication to marriage as before. Attitudes have changed and marriages have become expendable. Sad.

Answer 9

Now days people don't like to work on the marriage. A divorce is way too easy to get.

Answer 10

Most people in my family have been together for years and years. From everything I gather, they are happy. Perhaps you are hard to satisfy or are thinking the grass is greener on the other side.