Ok here it goes. I have been with my fiance since September and we are getting married in July. I love her with all of my heart but I am jealous of past relationships she has had, I feel jealous when she wants to go to the "club" with her friend that has lower morals than my finace. My fiance is a beautiful woman who I love dearly (I am 27 she is 29) just so you know our ages. I now guys look at her and "undress her with their eyes...like a piece of meat and I cannot stand it and it makes me jealous. I do not go to the club with her as I do not dance and she dances very very well!!! What can I do to stop being so jealous and to let her know that I really do not like her going "clubbing" especially with that one friend....thanks
As a note...I have told her before that I do not like her going to the club and do not care for this one friend due to her morals, but my finace has never given any reason to doubt her and always tells me it is me she is with and it is me she is coming home to
2007-05-08 04:23:15 · 7 answers · asked by lbs_dad2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why dont you start taking her to clubs, just the two of you and hang out sometime? that way you dont have to worry what she will be doing, cause she is going home with you. lol
2007-05-08 04:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jahpson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
I sure understand your feelings and you have a right to be jealous, it's normal when you love another person. Let me tell you, you probably know that influence is a powerful thing. Your Fiance's Friend might influence her in the wrong direction so I suggest you talk to your girl, I mean, sit and really talk, heck, you're engaged so that makes it much more important to fix this now, ok?
That's 1 point. My other point is, after you and your Fiancee' talk, ask her to tell her Friend to hang out with someone else who "fancies" the bar scene, that she isn't comfortable with it and neither is her "Future" Husband------ YOU! Your girl can suggest to her friend that when going out, seek "desirable" places to have fun, not the bars! They attract low life people, and it will only drag down your Fiancee'. If her Friend sneers at that, and your "girl" is torn between the 2 of you, talk to her some more and say to her, "Who is more important to you?" Our respect for each other OR this "friend in question, who obviously is attracted to inviting trouble in your lives!
Tell your Fiancee you aren't comfortable with this and just sit back and see what turns out. She will think about what you said and then in time you will just KNOW which is more important to her.
It will reach the surface one way or the other.
After all, a not-so-good influence isn't good at all for all concerned relationship wise!
My best to you and talk to your Lady, then you will know where you stand, Buddy!
My prayers too!
2007-05-08 11:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep quiet !Women hate jealous controlling men.If she is a person with good morales then you have no reason to be jealous.Its really your own insecurity.Honestly if I was her and you told me to ditch my freind or not go to the club ,I would dump you for being controlling and also for judging my freind so harshly.Women are like cats if you hold them really tight and squeeze them so they cant get away or have any space they will do anything to get away. However if you just let the cat sit on you and pet it ,the cat will be happy and stay.You need to try to find out why you are so jealous and work on that.
2007-05-08 11:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is right she is with you and if you are that jealouse and don't want guys to be lookin at her then go to the club with her a cpuple of times and make a statement to all thoses guys that she is taken. you don't have to go with her every time but it might help you to see how she acts while she is out. and i bet that your fiance would love it if you took interest in somthing that she obviously likes doin, n if she is that good of a dancer then im sure she will be happy to hepl you.
its just a suggestion but if i were you i would giv it a try my bf is a very jealouse person too and didn't like me heangin out with any guys so i told him if he didn't like it then he needs to com with. so he did and now the jealousy thing has com up maybe once in about 2 months so its workin
2007-05-08 11:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she has never given you reason to doubt her, you need to get past your jealousy or you risk losing her. Why don't you go with her, you don't need to dance. If she doesn't want you to go, then I would worry. For now, until she proves otherwise, you need to trust her.
2007-05-08 11:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept her word --- there is no reason to be jealous especially of past relationships --- they have made her into the lady you love ---- so you dont dance well so what ---- go with her --- not to check on her --- to be with her and enjoy her company --- she is with you and marrying you ---- best wishes to you both
2007-05-08 11:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, go out for a run, and tire yourself out. You'll be too wrecked to even think about jealousy
2007-05-08 11:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by TJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋